Talking to a male friend. He has had 2 significant relationships - 1 lasting 14 years and the other marriage lasting 3 years. Had a few short term relationships that ended due to lack of communication.
He said his long terms ended as he was cheated on. His short term lack of communication and compromise. Said he is not really happy now his partner of 2 years had moved in. She nags him to do house things and wants a 50% partnership. He says he just wants to chill on days off. Says he cleans but not weekly.
I know this guy well and see him and his partner frequently. It seems that he stops making an effort when his partner moved in. I can see less affection amongst them. He is very stubborn and stuck in his ways. He admits he makes less effort as he sees them all the time and craves his own space. He now thinks this partner maybe cheating and blaming himself for not making the effort.
I know people should not cheat but surely this is bad luck. Either he chooses wrong or something else is happening. or paranoid