AIBU - DH sprays cleaning products near food

[Seashell83]

Over the past 5 years we've been married, I've had to tell DH numerous times to not spray cleaning products when there's food lying uncovered close by because the spray particles can go quite far even if we can't see it! For example, this evening I was prepping our 2.5 toddler's dinner and DH decides to spray Flash Bleach on the kitchen sink tap. I got so mad internally but calmly moved DSs plate to the side and told DH off. He got angry at me and said I'm always telling him off. When it comes to our DS I probably do because DH is a bit useless when it comes to looking after him (e.g. when DS was 3months old DH made his formula up with an extra scoop so "that it fills him up more" - needless to say I lost my sh1t then and said it wasn't fish and chips where he was putting extra vinegar! There are measurements for baby formula for a bloomin' reason!!!!). Anyway, coming back to the spray, AIBU?

YANBU

Depends how bear it was

Near

Probably not unreasonable about spraying the bleach but if you’re in the mindset of “telling him off” and can’t trust him to make up some formula either you’re in the mindset of micromanaging him and waiting for him to make mistakes (unreasonable, low key controlling) or actually can’t do basic childcare/cleaning tasks ((weaponised incompetence at home - what’s he like at work?) and he’s another one of those incompetent man childs we hear about so much on here.

He sounds pretty thick.

You could buy wipes instead of spray to prevent him from spraying food. What a twat.

Food was 30cm away from sink. So I'm sure some of the spray particles must have landed on our DSs plate. The thing is, my DH is pretty over the top when it comes to cleaning. I'll be cooking and he won't wait for me to finish but has to start cleaning up around me, and I'm not even that messy! I know most women (sad that I'm even writing this) would say I'm lucky I have a DH that wants things tidy but it's overkill when we have a toddler. For example, DS will be playing and it's natural for a home of a toddler to have toys lying around, but not in our house! While DS is playing my DH starts packing the toys around DS up! it winds me up. What is the point when our DS will only take all his toys out again! And don't even get me started on bathtime. If DS splashes water out the tub (as kids do!) DH is there wiping it all up whilst DS is still having his bath! I dread to think what DH will be like if we have a 2nd child. I'm laughing and crying as I'm writing this but DHs priorities with our child is so wrong... he would rather keep the room/house tidy than let our DS enjoy the things a toddler does!

That’s because he’s prioritising his needs, not your child’s. He’s indulging his neuroses about cleanliness but casual about making formula correctly for your child.

I wouldn’t be using any of those cleaning products anywhere, so toxic. It sounds like you are very critical of his parenting which is a broader issue.

Careless behaviour like that really annoys me, so YANBU