To prefer spending time with my MIL instead of my mother?

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Does anyone else prefer their MILs company?
Does anyone else have a great MIL.
When we visit her she always cooks, gets up with dd in the AM while we lie in, gets our favourite meals, babysits if we ask (not often due to circumstances but always offers). Expects us to do nothing except what we want to do i.e. slob around the house/ visit other family members when we want.Spends most of her time playing with dd while DH and I relax for a bit.
I love my MIL!

My mother on the other hand rarely offers to babysit, never lets us have a lie in by having the cot in her room (2 bed house now) but never offered even when they had a 4 bed house and dd had her own room IYSWIM. Cooks food at inappropriate times for dd and usually not the best food to give a 2yo. Can't seem to spend more than 5mins at a time playing with dd, even though she only sees her every couple of months

My MIL is without a doubt more helpful than my Mum. And even more helpful to my SIL.

I'm exactly the same... I get on really well with my MIL and going to them for the weekend is a real break. They're so helpful with the dc's and we're all very well fed and watered

My mom is a royal PITA and I hate visiting (and she's babysat once in 10 months and it was a bit of a disaster)

Oh well - at least I have one to rely on. I'm sure some poor beggars have crap mums and crap MIL's

Same here, DPs mum is fantastic. She spends a far greater proportion of visits playing with DDS (who are not even her sons DDs) and DSD than my Mum does.

Always very thoughtful gifts and seems to love helpng with the 'boring' stuff to the point that it makes me feel guilty, and a bit about my mum

I love my mil. I don't have a very deep relationship with her, but I like her. We are going to see her on sun. I haven't told my mum this. I have fallen out with my mum recently, and not over something trivial. But our relationship is very deep. I love going to my mil. She cooks enough for the neighbourhood and piles a big roast onto your plate so that you can't even see the pattern.
My mum cooks a la carte, but there is never enough. When she comes to our house, I put piles and piles of lamb chops and potaotes and peas on her plate . She always scoffs the lot, Her dh looks like he has died and gone to heaven.
Dh and I laugh about all these things.

I love my MIL, she is a fantastic, loving, creative grandmother

I love visting my MIL I don't have to do anything!!I don't have to wake up to bath the kids..nothing my SIL takes them out no worries and me and hubby can just veg out in the top bedroom

My mother does help me regularly but she has this way of stressing the hell outta me everytime I visit and everything seems to be a palava or requires an explaination or some kind of precision planning and I always end up having words...although lately she hasn't been that bad...

My DH feels the same

I love my MIL. She is super! Just the most caring, easy going person ever.

My mum, while I love her, is just the opposite and is really stressy........

With my mum, it's never just a 'cuppa' there has got to be some big discussion and she wants to know EVERYTHING, whereas my MIL is happy just to natter and pass the time of day.

I feel very lucky to have my MIL in my life!

I just thought it was refreshing to post a nice MIL thread,as there seem to be lots of threads calling them fit to burn

Call it the MIL appreciation society!

My mum is a star in terms of helping out. I couldn't have coped over the last 11 years without her. However she fusses too much sometimes and her politics make me want to run screaming.

MIL doesn't help out much because she doesn;t drive and can't get to us. But I find her easier in some ways because she is more accepting of the way we live. Her politics are just as scary as my mum's - added to which she has found Jesus in the last decade and likes to talk about him. She also thinks I am the best things since sliced bread... and of course she is right

YABU don't you know all MILs even ILs are bad?

Sorry couldn't resist

How lovely to find a MIL appreciation thread!
I thought it couldn't all be bad! Mine is lovely (but so is my Mum).

i love my mil because she is in a different country but she winds me up after about a day. I dont live near my mum either so lucky everyone who has them close by! My mum is brill always listens and tells me i am a great mum. My mil is the reason my h is a spoilt selfish tosser!