Boyfriend using medically prescribed cannabis to get high?

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I will try and keep this as short as possible. AIBU for disapproving of my boyfriends legal cannabis and do I have a right to tell him to stop?

My boyfriend has got a prescription for ‘medical’ thc and cbd off one of the online doctors sites. This site only exists to prescribe these drugs and isn’t an online GP or anything like that. We are based in a non UK country and this is completely legal. He accessed this site for the sole reason of getting this prescription.

The reason he gave was that he hopes it will help his with his anxiety. For context, he does have social anxiety and has been on SSRIs for about a year. He has been offered cbt and talking therapy through the GP and declined both of these. He has a full time job and is not hugely disabled by his anxiety.

He also has a previous history (approx 10 years ago) of a serious drug addiction for which he needed to go to rehab. Additionally he has a family history of schizophrenia.

For the past few nights he has been weird, dozey and incapable of helping around the house and then today I have come in and it stinks of cannabis. I am incredibly frustrated as I feel he is using the excuse of anxiety as a reason to get high and I’m worried that this is going to escalate due to his precious addiction problems. I also feel like I’m living with a grungy teenage boy and I don’t want all my stuff to smell of weed.

My question is, what do I do about it? Am I being incredibly non supportive of his anxiety if I tell him I disapprove and want his to stop smoking?? I’m not sure how to approach it and would hugely appreciate some advice.

You can't stop it you either accept it or leave, he is not a child

What Wanda said

I doubt he'll stop because you've asked him to , but it would be a deal breaker for me, I can't stand the smell for a start, it would completely put me off a dp.

Sounds like he enjoys getting high, and is smoking too much too early to be of any use to you. I’m pretty pro-marijuana, but if you live together and he’s turning into a useless lump as soon as he gets high, it’s definitely reasonable to be annoyed about it. You can either ask him to smoke far less in the evening, or wait until closer to bedtime to smoke. If he refuses, then you might have an issue on your hands.

Marijuana is not addictive in and of itself, but if he tends to overdo things, he may very well develop
unhealthy habits and start smoking too much. I think you need to tell him how you’re feeling and see how he reacts, then go from there.

I think you need to tell him how you’re feeling and see how he reacts, then go from there.

I agree.

I’m not against medical uses for cannabis but that does imply that it will be used in a structured way specifically to achieve an aim of symptom relief. I wonder how he’d describe that to you?

Marijuana is not addictive in and of itself

Here we go again 🙄

OP, he's committed to the drug. If getting a regular supply in doesn't make him a pot-head, then I don't know what does.

From experience:
Your stuff WILL smell of weed
He'll smoke increasingly more
He'll be an intolerable dickhead if separated from his weed
He'll be intolerable& short tempered every time he tries (and fails) to give up
His anxiety will get worse

The pot-head I was with was also an ex drug addict. This is what his lovely family told me when they heard me supporting him with giving up cannabis : we are very worried. The weed replaced coke. It's his crutch. What will be in it's place if the weed is not there?

The truth is, I was living with a druggie. So are you, OP. Get out and find someone of sound mind and with a happy predisposition. It's going to be a groundhog day of misery otherwise.