4 year old asking about breasts

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We are on a holiday in our native country. DD who is 4yr old is being extremely pampered by grandparents, uncles and aunts. The other day DD was hugging my sister and she suddenly blurted out "what are these big things?" referring to my sister's breasts. Since then she keeps asking my mum as well why she has big breasts. Is this abnormal behaviour for a 4yr old. Today she was looking at herself in the mirror and kept saying "mine ate tiny aunty has big ones". Her behaviour is driving me crazy. Am I overthinking?

That song is awful not something I would ever be playing for my children. The pants song is great though.

Sounds like she’s confused and curious because no one has explained basic biology to her and her questions are being ignored.

Maybe educate your child?!!

By age 4 my DC were watching you tube videos on how sperm finds the egg, and they certainly knew exactly what breasts are for.

My friend's son when he was 3 or 4 told me quite loudly in a cafe that his mummy had big boobs with buttons on them.

If my niece had asked me "what are these big things" I would have cracked up laughing before explaining.

Buttons on them 🤣🤣🤣

What would people judge her curiosity as...?

How is she 4 and doesn't know what breasts are? Just tell her ladies have them when they get older and they make milk to feed babies.

I do worry about these groups in society that would judge a small child???

It's absolutely fine for children to be curious and to ask questions and get honest answers. But by 4 they should be starting to learn there is a time and a place. Plenty of people wouldn't want their boobs commented on. You can do this without inhibiting or shaming the child, they are just learning social norms.

What - of course it's normal- my just turned 4 year old old talks about boobies all the time.

I also have almost 2 year old twins and whenever we take tops or clothes off they both excitedly shout "boooooobies"

Normalise our bodies please

Just to add- 4 year old asked yesterday "why are your boobies long"

Literally just answer and tell her! I grew up in a house where I couldn't ask for sanitary products because my mum was weird about these things !

No different to "why are my eyes blue and X's brown", "why is Y taller then me" or "why does Z have a beard"

Just explain that everyone is different, one day she will grow breasts, and that they could be bigger or smaller. Possibly with an explanation of why women have breasts.

I think it's useful for kids to name all body parts. Helps with safeguarding. Nothings as sad as the story of small child who kept telling daycare that someone was touching her fee fee (similar name) nursery staff assumed it was a pet but was actually what her parents called her vulva/vagina and she was being abused.

Does she never watch you get dressed OP- I’m assuming you’re female?

Of course it’s normal.

What’s less normal to me at least is that your breasts hurt if a child rests their head on them? But then mine are on the ample side.

@NewNovember can I ask why? Do you have an issue with the message or just the song / tune? Just curious

Non issue.

My niece couldn't sit on your knee without trying to have a look down your top 😂

Jeepers OP. Does she not see yours? My boys always talk about boobs, my boobs, their boobs, penises and vaginas. It’s totally normal

Completely normal behaviour for a 4 year old. Just explain, in a matter of fact way, that older girls and ladies have breasts. Everyone's are different and that's fine. She will get breasts when she is older.

If it makes you feel any better, when my son was about 3, we were getting changed after swimming and he asked me when he would get boobies like me 😂 I just explained that only ladies have them, men don't, daddy/grandad don't etc.

It's just normal curiosity about the human body.

Wait until she moves on to wondering about 'hairy bums' and chooses the most inappropriate places to loudly ask you about yours for the millionth time?

'What did you say the hairy bit of your bum is called mammy?
It's really hairy isn't it?
I hope mine never gets that hairy. It'd be sweating.'
Thank you sweetheart now finish your McDonald's.

Being this concerned over such a simple question is a bit concerning. Have you not considered what will happen when they start to ask about sex/babies/reproduction? You need to start thinking about this so you don't make them feel like the body and such things are shameful, embarrassing things to discuss. Open, factual, age appropriate communication is always best. Being embarrassed to discuss breasts with your own child is a bit weird. Sorry.

My nephew was obsessed with mine.... was quite weird

I have boys.

When oldest was a preschooler dad nipped on into public toilet in supermarket (using a cubicle) as they both needed a wee.

DS shouts ‘Daddy… your Willy is Enormous!’

DH was mortified 🙈

Around the same age I remember a good friend telling me her husband only bathed with their 3-4yo daughter wearing trunks as their little girl had, since starting preschool, become intrigued by anatomical differences.

Boobs and Penises (penis’? penii?) seem a pretty common fascination as they start to learn and observe the differences between people around them. It’s very natural to be inquisitive.

My DD is almost 5(in October). I've told her that when she grows up she'll "have breasts like mummy" but little girls don't have them.