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Would you be comfortable with this?

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DisneyBaby · 13/08/2023 00:35

My brother (who I don't always see eye to with) went on my husbands stag do and has now somehow managed to edge his way into my husband and I's friendship group.

He started playing football with a couple of boys in the group as they needed extra players, then got invited on a boys holiday as he was single with a couple of them (there's about 10 boys in the group plus 10 partners) and now he seems to reluctantly get invited to everything, along with his partner and my future SIL.

I am so uncomfortable with this, as is my husband. We enjoy spending time with them as family but feel a big intruded on that they have ebbed their way into the group. It's nice to keep friends and family separate I think.

My brother is one of those people who knows the answer to everything, a bit of a know if all and exaggerates things (most of the reason we don't always get on) and I've heard from others friends in the group that they find him annoying at times. And I can't help but feel like him being that was us a bad reflection on me being his sister.

Every time my brother and his gf mention they're going to something that we're going to we can't help but feel annoyed and like they shouldn't be there.

Would anyone else feel the same? I guess there's nothing I can do about it now is there?

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Whataretheodds · 13/08/2023 08:52

So you host something for the group not including your brother.
And then arrange something for the group not including your brother.
If it's true that he's being invited because your friends think it would be awkward with you if they didn't you can demonstrate that it won't be.
But if they want to invite him anyway I'm not sure you can do much about that.

UpAndAwayyy · 14/08/2023 11:25

They are your friends, not your possessions. You don't get exclusive use of them.

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