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Avoiding coworker interaction?

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BlankOfficeLarpy · 13/08/2023 00:32

There’s this one coworker I really want to avoid. We work in the same office, have the same manager. I don’t like that they make comments about me (after they requested this info). Where I live, the type of place I live in, the cost of my rent, what I bring for lunch or whether it’s homemade or not etc. They comment on my work nonstop and they generally rude and passive aggressive and unlikeable.

I really don’t understand why my manager loves putting us together work wise. When we’re in the office, all this colleague talks about is how much they drink, what they’re planning to drink in the evening, they’re drunken teenage escapades, sex with their partner and whether they use protection or not etc. The manager doesn’t seem to mind this but I’m not interested in this mindless chatter, especially from someone that doesn’t even do their job correctly but never admits to any mistakes, leaves work for other people to do.

Anyway I really just want to avoid working with this person because I’m tired of them, their drama, their lack of work ethic, their nonsensical chatter that isn’t even interesting but would be if we were teenagers. However I’m afraid this will make me look like I’m the unprofessional one but I really can’t work with this individual without a lot of annoyance that I can no longer hide. If I ask to move to a different work space, it creates a thing. If I move myself without asking, then I’ll have to explain why. What would you do?

Before people suggest - yes I have spoken directly to them and also tried ignoring them. Now it’s time for another option.

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Bluesheeps · 13/08/2023 01:08

I don’t like a lot of my work colleagues, but they’re colleagues, not friends. It would reflect more poorly on you to make an issue just because you don’t like their personality.

if you have work related issues which cause problems fair enough. Does it impact you?
put headphones in, nod and disengage.

Wakintoblueskies · 13/08/2023 01:21

Are there other people you can have a civil conversation with in this office?

If not, it sounds like you don’t fit into this department. I’ve worked in certain offices and never connected to the people working there It had a hugely negative effect on me.
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Can you ask to be transferred? Move jobs?

Having conflict not getting on with colleagues will effect your stress levels and emotional well being., and ultimately will result in you moving. You’d save yourself a lot of upset by moving sooner than later.

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