To not miss them

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I moved over 400 miles away with my young child last year for a fresh start and haven't seen any of my family/friends since. I feel terrible saying this, but I don't miss any of them. They want to visit, and I've been putting it off, but a visit has now been booked for the end of next month and I'm dreading it. I had quite a traumatic childhood and struggled a bit with my mental health before moving, but since being here, that has all disappeared. I suppose you could say I've reinvented myself, and I just don't want my family, who knew the "old" me, visiting. :-( Is it normal that I feel this way? I mean, they're my family and they love me. I should miss them. But I don't.

If you had a traumatic childhood and they're your family, are they the reason it was traumatic?

If it's better for your mental health not to see them, don't see them.

Hi. Yes, well, my parents. It is actually my siblings that want to visit, who strangely, I get along well with. I just feel like I've created a new life, and I don't want anything from my "old life" here. Which maybe sounds selfish.

Do what’s right for you.

Sometimes a fresh start is what’s needed, plus guests staying over for multiple nights isn’t everyone’s cup of tea.

Pleas pressure of work and put it off for a year