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AIBU?

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Would this piss you off

13 replies

palmfish · 12/08/2023 23:06

My neighbours seem to enjoy singing karaoke but it only ever happens after 10pm. I think they come back from the pub and it starts.

Last time I knocked and asked them to keep it down as I had kids going to school the next say and she was very drunk and said she didn't realise it was Thursday.

It's happened every few weeks since but on a weekend. This week it was both last night and tonight and is in full swing now. I appreciate it's a weekend but it's 11pm and not everyone stays up all night!!!

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palmfish · 12/08/2023 23:08

Next day*

Currently Sinead O'Connor is being screeched through the walls into both my living room and bedroom it's that loud.

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slipperypenguin · 12/08/2023 23:08

Nothing compares to you

MissBabz · 12/08/2023 23:12

Who wouldn't be pissed off really

Lamelie · 12/08/2023 23:13

I’d be pissed off.

Findyourneutralspace · 12/08/2023 23:13

Yeah, that’s annoying. I don’t begrudge anyone the odd party but if it’s regular and on a weeknight I wouldn’t be happy.

Tilllly · 12/08/2023 23:15

Very annoying

purplebluediscorain · 12/08/2023 23:16

You need to complain to the noise people at your council if she’s not listening to you.

coodawoodashooda · 12/08/2023 23:17

Yes. I'd be annoyed

10HailMarys · 12/08/2023 23:21

Yes, I’d be annoyed. An occasional bit of late noise for a party or something, fine. But if it’s a regular thing, which it seems to be with your neighbours, it’s not OK.

I used to have a next door neighbour who would regularly go out midweek, get hammered and then come back with a load of random people she’d met and put very loud music on. It was actually really stressful because we were constantly dreading it and on edge.

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palmfish · 12/08/2023 23:25

If I privately rent but they own, can my landlord do anything or would it be on me? I'm worried about formally complaining in case it makes things more difficult!

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Peppermint81 · 12/08/2023 23:30

During the day when they are very sober, speak to them about it and say how much it's affecting you. Don't want to spoil you fun but Can they turn it down etc?
If no joy after few weeks start ringing the police to complain after 11pm- that will get the message across.
Doubt landlord will care!

Honeysuckle16 · 12/08/2023 23:37

Think about going to speak to your neighbours again. Take some flowers/chocolates and thank them for heeding your previous request. Be very courteous but explain you can hear their weekend celebrations and it’s disturbing for you and your children. Maybe ask if they could keep the noise down after a certain time at night?

You will probably have to live with these neighbours for months/years so keep the conversation as polite as possible. However, if you get a negative response, just leave to avoid the situation getting worse.

At the same time, record the noise on your phone so you have some evidence. Make a list of the times they’ve been noisy, date, time started and ended, any action you’ve taken and their response. This is useful to provide a record.

If you get a negative response in person, or things don’t change, get in touch with environmental health at your council to report it. Ask them what their guidelines are - most say no loud noise after a certain time. Request they take action, this is usually by sending a letter or visiting the property.

Chat to neighbours and find out if they’re also being disturbed. This would give more weight to your complaint.

Showdogworkingdog · 12/08/2023 23:56

palmfish · 12/08/2023 23:25

If I privately rent but they own, can my landlord do anything or would it be on me? I'm worried about formally complaining in case it makes things more difficult!

It’s your local council who will take action. They will ask if you’ve raised it with your neighbour first and you have. You could try speaking with your neighbour at a time when they’re sober as PP has suggested but idk how you’d feel about that. The council will ask you to keep a diary of when it happened and how this impacted you and if they decide it’s a statutory nuisance they can take action. I had to do this years ago and they sent my neighbours a letter saying they’d received a complaint (it didn’t say who from, but as I’d spoken to my neighbour already, it was obvious it was me) and telling them their noise levels were being monitored, and if they didn’t reign it in, they could take further action. It has to be pretty bad and regular for the council to do anything, but in my case, the letter was enough to remind my arsehole neighbour to be mindful of others. My neighbour is also a know it all who confidently told me he was entitled to do what he wanted whenever he wanted in his house so the official letter did back me up - you can’t disturb others all the time. Who knew? You have my sympathies, the selfish arseholes, nobody needs that.

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