To hope we’d have heard already

[thelastapple]

We sent out our wedding reception invites a couple of weeks ago. Loads of people invited, family and friends. Our parents are going to be there, no need for a formal reply from them. So far only my cousin has RSVPd and two of our friends (who are couple). So two responses. I did put a ‘RSVP by’ date on there and we aren’t yet at that date but whenever I receive invites I usually check the calendar, and respond as fast as I can - certainly within a week… but maybe I am too quick and should take note for the future 😂

AIBU?

How far in the future is the wedding and what is the RSVP date?

I am motivated by deadlines, so you probably wouldn't hear from me before the deadline you gave me.

I think that's fairly common.

It's normal to be excited about replies and hoping for them to arrive...but realistically when I receive invites or anything the post I put it on the side and forget about it till the weekend. Then I have to check the calendar, think about what may be happening at that time if its a long way off, think about childcare and accommodation....and buy stamps

I wouldn’t reply until the rsvp date.

When’s the wedding? If it’s not until next year, I’m not surprised

Let me just save you some time - NO ONE cares about your wedding apart from you

If it's more than 3 months away you will get a reply on the RSVP date (and only because I have to)

You need to appreciate that not everyone is like you, there are no hard and fast rules on replying people simply have different approaches

Two weeks isn't long. They may have been on holiday, ill, or busy with children, work, or other responsibilities. I don't think you can realistically expect that everyone who plans to attend will RSVP far ahead of the cut-off date you gave.

It's probably because they don't care. It's just a wedding and it's not of any interest to the guests until the buffet comes out.