To think that drinking alone this late is wrong?

[Octosaurus]

Help me out plz.
DF often (2/3 times a week) will stay up until 2am or more drinking and watching TV on his own before stumbling into bed and being hungover the next morning.
AIBU to think that's not normal and actually showing signs of alcoholism? We are both early 30s and have a baby on the way very soon.

YANBU.

DF? Darling friend, darling father? Sorry if I’m being a bit dim.

To answer your question, YANBU. Questionable behaviour, not normal, and probably an alcoholic. I wouldn’t want this in my life (and I’m not a thimbleful of sherry at Xmas type, I drink a glass or two of wine Fri Sat and possibly Sun.

I'm guessing fiancé based on the reference to having a baby together.

YANBU OP, whether he's strictly an alcoholic or not, it's not healthy behaviour and it needs to stop. Routinely drinking alone and to the point that it's disruptive into the following day is worrying.

That's not healthy OP and needs sorting before baby arrives. You don't want a useless alcoholic around a baby.

No, not normal and very unhealthy. Does he work? Going to bed that late and having hangovers in the morning isn't a good combination regardless if he works or not. Definitely needs sorting before baby comes along.

Certainly won't be doing him any good.

Is this your first child?

That's not a good sign OP.

YANBU. Not healthy and certainly not compatible with a baby.

Have you tried talking to him about it? Is he willing to admit that it's a problem?

Do you know why he is doing this? Does he have any insight into it not being normal behaviour?

Fiancé yes. He's not willing to admit it's a problem but it seems to have slowed down a bit but I just don't think it will ever stop realistically. He doesn't drink every day but does have a habit of doing this.

I'm glad I've been validated that it's not normal behaviour.

Drinking on his own watching TV is fine! Stumbling to bed and being hungover is not so good. Sounds like the amount he is drinking is the problem!

I think the issue here isn't the fact that he's drinking alone or drinking late, but that he's drinking so much that he stumbles into bed and has a hangover two or three times a week. I don't think I had two or three hangovers a week even when I was a student, let alone in my early 30s. It's certainly not good for a man with a job and a baby on the way.