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Does anyone love their job

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Sarahbumdaa · 10/08/2023 23:42

I've started at a new place. No matter how hard i try i cant do anything right. I work so hard, try my best to do all my jobs, which I get them all done. But im made to feel like I'm not doing good enough. Anyone got any advice so I can get better. I dont know what to do. I feel so emotional all the time

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OrwellianTimes · 10/08/2023 23:44

Did you feel the same in previous jobs?

Frightenedbunny · 10/08/2023 23:45

How long have you been there? I had a job I loved but the organisation went through a restructure and I decided to leave as I didn’t like the direction of travel. I’ve been in my new job 3 months and categorically hate it. I don’t usually jump ship but I need to leave asap. ConpNy is only interested in profit, not quality. I’m sick of having to apologise for people’s incompetence.

Oysterbabe · 10/08/2023 23:46

It will the time to find your feet but you'll get there.

frizzyhairedfern32 · 10/08/2023 23:47

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Howmuchfurther · 10/08/2023 23:50

It’s really really hard at the start.

Received wisdom is that it takes six months to be effective.

Working hard, caring, trying, exactly as you are is the best way to learn fast.

Learn the people as well as the place. If there is anyone who can give advice, ask for it. Partake in group conversations. Helpful tips often pass then, and also the bonding that lets you ask more.

Hawkins009 · 10/08/2023 23:51

Sometimes it's not always being best at what you do, sometimes it's playing office politics.
As was said in a CSI episode, there's always politics.

stayathomer · 10/08/2023 23:52

I was /am to a lesser extent than I was, in a similar position. The staff were fab in being supportive but the work itself- I was always confused and running to try to catch up. Give yourself time and ignore people pushing you on, tell them you’re figuring it out. I’d also consider whether you can ask for help or as them how you think you could do it better. I’d also consider whether it’s what you thought you were getting into, how you feel about your hours, the other staff, location etc to see whether you want to job hunt again x

Lavender14 · 10/08/2023 23:53

I love my job but I'm well supported and respected by by management and my team. Mistakes or things not going well are approached as learning opportunities rather than something to be scolded and we're given a lot of autonomy to manage our time/ diary and can make the job our own. I get on great with my coworkers and we all have a shared interest in the work we do and we're all social together. We're also encouraged to have difficult conversations together and be honest in our feedback and accepting of others feedback as a means to promote continuous peer learning and accountability. We have a pretty flat org structure so I could pick up the phone to the ceo to chat without it being weird.

Sometimes the people you're working with and the culture that's embedded in a workplace is more important than the skills you bring individually. People tend to burn out because of bad management not their lack of competence.

I'd speak to your manager, ask them to give you direct feedback on your performance and what areas they think need improving and then come up with ways to make that improvement.. that could look like you sourcing and requesting more training or approaching someone who you trust who's been there longer and asking if they'd be your sounding board because you want to improve your performance and you'd like to learn from them.

If you're performance is good and your manager can't actually tell you what needs improved but still makes you feel like you're not doing enough, then you have a manager problem and you need to either develop a thick skin and trust in your own judgement of your work and let their comments wash over you, or you take as much learning as you can from this place and interview elsewhere.

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The lamp post? Call the council,

CrapBucket · 10/08/2023 23:56

No one can make you feel not good enough without your permission. Take control- make a specific plan of how to improve the situation!

saltinesandcoffeecups · 11/08/2023 00:02

Not enough information to really offer any advice that I’d consider valuable.

How long have you been there?
What is the work (in general terms) -stocking shelves or brain surgery
What is happening that you don’t feel supported?
etc.

EBearhug · 11/08/2023 00:06

The Virgin engineer who sorted out my TV box earlier this week. He grew up in the town, and loves that he's paid to go round all the different areas in town and gets invited into people's homes and meet cats and dogs and talk to all sorts of people and see their homes.

Lookingatthesunset · 11/08/2023 00:14

Lavender14 · 10/08/2023 23:53

I love my job but I'm well supported and respected by by management and my team. Mistakes or things not going well are approached as learning opportunities rather than something to be scolded and we're given a lot of autonomy to manage our time/ diary and can make the job our own. I get on great with my coworkers and we all have a shared interest in the work we do and we're all social together. We're also encouraged to have difficult conversations together and be honest in our feedback and accepting of others feedback as a means to promote continuous peer learning and accountability. We have a pretty flat org structure so I could pick up the phone to the ceo to chat without it being weird.

Sometimes the people you're working with and the culture that's embedded in a workplace is more important than the skills you bring individually. People tend to burn out because of bad management not their lack of competence.

I'd speak to your manager, ask them to give you direct feedback on your performance and what areas they think need improving and then come up with ways to make that improvement.. that could look like you sourcing and requesting more training or approaching someone who you trust who's been there longer and asking if they'd be your sounding board because you want to improve your performance and you'd like to learn from them.

If you're performance is good and your manager can't actually tell you what needs improved but still makes you feel like you're not doing enough, then you have a manager problem and you need to either develop a thick skin and trust in your own judgement of your work and let their comments wash over you, or you take as much learning as you can from this place and interview elsewhere.

I would literally kill for this - you are so fortunate!!

I've been with the same public sector employer for 31 years and it's been endlessly toxic, due to the personalities involved. The work is fine, the collaboration with other managers is good. There's just too many people who have been promoted beyond their level of competence due to years of stagnation, and don't have the first clue how to manage and motivate staff!

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Sarahbumdaa · 11/08/2023 00:46

Ok so sector is care. I've been doing this job for 11 years. I've been at my new work place 8 weeks. Its very fast paced. I've been working hard as I know no one her. Mangers feed back is im doing good. However I feel emotional all the time im here. If someone is rude to me I just feel so upset. I just want to come and do my job, do it to the best of my ability and go home. Location is good. I just want to be happy.

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LondonQueen · 11/08/2023 01:09

I love my job, I'm a teacher in a primary school, I love it but it's hard work and don't live the hours. The school holidays make it worth it for me to see my children though.

RoomOfRequirement · 11/08/2023 02:15

I don't love my job but I love how flexible it is, I love that it's mostly WFH, I love that we make a difference, I love that I travel to the US often and stay in nice hotels for free and I love that they pay more than double my old NHS salary for less work.

Stompythedinosaur · 11/08/2023 02:24

8 weeks isn't a long time. You need to give it longer to settle in and feel comfortable and confident.

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Sarahbumdaa · 11/08/2023 03:35

Stompythedinosaur · 11/08/2023 02:24

8 weeks isn't a long time. You need to give it longer to settle in and feel comfortable and confident.

Thanks 😊 so there is some hope! I really hope with time I can settle in and love my job again, like I have in previous roles.

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Sarahbumdaa · 11/08/2023 03:36

And all the posters who have said they love there job that gives me hope too. Was beginning to think no one did

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MrsTerryPratchett · 11/08/2023 03:40

Change is hard. Give it time.

autienotnaughti · 11/08/2023 03:43

I've had jobs I've loved but it never lasts usually due to changes to role/more pressure/new management. I do love my current job (nearly three years) but I only work part time. I think if I worked fu time I'd be bored.

jods19 · 11/08/2023 03:44

Hey 👋
I've recently swapped jobs in the last 3 weeks. I also work in care sector, also feeling the same.

Ive only been working in care for 10 months but wasn't happy with the last care job I had (I did home care, and in that clients home all shift, not bouncing about!). Clients were brilliant and their family were too but wasn't happy with management, so I'm now working in a care home.. which I absolutely hate, I hate it that much that's I've actually asked to go back to my factory job that I left 10 months ago. I love working in care but it's just not for me. I knew I made the wrong choice on my second shift of working in my new job.. 3 weeks in and now hopefully going back to my first job I was at for nearly 8 Years... Maybe the grass isn't greener on the other side🫣

vodkaredbullgirl · 11/08/2023 03:50

I work in care and have been at the same place for 18 yes. Prefer working night shifts, as it quiet most of the time.

Happyhappyday · 11/08/2023 03:59

I love my job. I like my colleagues, the work is interesting, doesn’t take me very long as is quite task oriented so I get a little boost every time I complete something :). I work for a company with a mission and that feels good too. Plus I get lots of free stuff and get to go skiing for work 🤷‍♀️.

Caprisunny · 11/08/2023 04:46

I can’t say I love my job. If I won the lottery, I wouldn’t do it. But I do throughly enjoy it, look forward to going in and enjoy the work and my colleagues. Usually. 😂

But about 3 months in I didn’t. I felt lost. I felt like I was wrong in every area and that I wasn’t able to get to grips with it. I decided I was going to try and get through a year and leave. At about 6 months, I found my stride. And things changed. I started feeling like I grasped the set up, understood how things were expected to be and became more comfortable.

4 years on and I am very happy. Change and a new environment can be really hard.