Husband called strangers children stupid

[Miya24]

I took my 4 year old DD to a adventure playground with my dh. One of the attractions was a small maze with two entrances and a large tower in the middle so I stood at one end and he stood at the other to keep an eye on her.

There were two older kids at the side nearest my dh who looked to be about 8 who were generally running around having fun.

About 5 minutes later the two children approached their parent who was next to me and said that man over there called me stupid, while pointing at my dh. Kids dad seemed not to fussed and said well you probably were doing something stupid but the other parent looked unimpressed.

I quickly went around to asked dh what happened and he explained that the kids were trying to scale the outside of the tower (which wasn't meant to be climbed on) and DD had asked him what they were doing to and wanted assistance in copying them. He responded "they're being stupid, don't do that" which the kids obviously overheard.

I understand he didn't want DD trying to copy them but I asked if he had to call them stupid and why didn't he say silly or dangerous. DH is of the opinion that they were being stupid so he called them stupid. Upon further questioning DH hoped that, with the children being within earshot that they would reconsider their actions, especially with impressionable young children around.

It obviously didn't come to anything so it's not a big deal but aibu to think husband shouldn't have called them stupid (especially in earshot of the kids).

What did I just read. A non event.

What's even wrong with the word stupid? They were being stupid. It's not like he said "because they're little dickheads" is it?

He said they were being stupid. He didn't say they are/were stupid.

I think you should take a card out of your husband's deck, call out stupid (yes, STUPID) behaviour when you see it and stop caring so much about what other people think.

The only thing stupid is the fact he was overheard. As these non events can cause major reactions from others.

I think your dh might be a bit optimistic that 8yr olds will consider their behaviour in front 'impressionable' young children because he called them / their actions stupid. They were just kids climbing in a playground - it's hardly a big deal. Then again neither is explaining to your daughter why she can't though I probably would've brought the other kids into it myself. You both need to relax a bit.

So the other dad was right. They were trying to do something stupid.

And he didn't call them stupid he called there behaviour stupid.

It was.

What's your issue?

Cab anyone tell me how to delete my own thread? I was expecting a bit of people calling me out and I definitely think you're right aibu, but I feel this was a mistake.

Im really not in the right mindset to laugh this off. Sorry I don't post very often and I don't know how to do it.

Christ on a 3 wheeler bike
Why are you getting so uptight about this?
Words fail me sometimes!!

Please someone tell me how to delete this. I'm sorry.

Absolutely this? Sorry but calling them softie woftie silly billieswhen they are doing something dangerous and frankly stupid doesn’t drive the message home.

Stupid’s a strong word, we don’t use it around our kids. Mine would be upset to be called stupid by a random man in a playground. I would have told my DCs that they know playgrounds are meant to be played in however kids see fit, and that man was small-minded for not understanding that, and supremely rude for calling them “the ‘s’ word”.

I've reported the post and asked for it to be closed for you. Not sure if that works but worth a shot.

The crucial difference is that your DH didn’t speak to the kids and tell them they were stupid. He said it to his own child, about the kids. A lot of people object to adult strangers reprimanding their kids, but that’s completely different to kids overhearing something negative about them.

I think you can report it yourself op and I will do so as well. Try to worry less what other people think of you, I do this too and have to remind myself that everyone has their own shit and won’t be thinking of this interaction in 5 minutes

The other kids' dad sounds the most sensible one.

Och, they'll live.

I mean, even their own parent wasn't bothered

Oh, ignore everyone piling on. They're too wrapped up in their rants online to read the whole thread and won't have noticed you're being good natured about everything.
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Balls to 'em

Get a grip

Thanks for the kind words. Without going into too much detail I have recently come out of a dark place and it didn't expect it to hurt as much ready all the things you already believe about yourself.I guess I'm not quite stable enough to brave the aibu boards just yet.

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Honestly, nobody talks like this lot in real lifelot of sneery types on here, best to roll your eyes and then pop onto another thread

He didn't say they WERE stupid; he said they were BEING stupid; i.e. doing something stupid. Which they were. And it was in the context of preventing your dd from copying then and getting into danger. So YABU.

They’ll delete it for you, but if it helps I never post on AIBU because you have to have plate armour to post!