Accused’s of ignoring my daughter

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My daughter (5) is a complete chatter box. From the moment she opens her eyes until her head hits the pillow.
I can only describe it as she narrates the day!

She is always asking questions, to which I answer mostly, sometimes she is not asking a question that has an answer!

I love it (mostly) and I get that she’s excited, inquisitive and a very bright child! But I do have to ask her to stop and not question/comment on everything for X amount of time!

After having my daughter over the school holidays (and see first hand how much she talks and questions everything) my wonderful mother has thinks/believes that I only reason she is asking me all these questions/constantly talking is because I must be ignoring her and not giving her enough attention and that somehow she is starved of affection from me which has lead to her constantly wanting my attention!

Options please?

Opinion please?*

Your mother has clearly forgotten what it's like to have a five-year-old.

It’s absolutely fine to tell a five year old ‘look it up in your head’ sometimes. They can drive you to the brink of insanity with their questions, especially as instead of listening to the answer they’re thinking of the next question 🤦🏻‍♀️

Let your Mother look after your daughter for one week....24 hours a day with no input from you.
Then see what her response is. 😉

My 3yo is the same, I try and answer everything but even the answers then get a 'why' and it is exhausting. They're children and they're inquisitive, it in no way means you're ignoring them

I have a 10 year old who has ASD who does not stop talking. We get the running commentary, questions, riddles, sums - anything. And when they aren’t talking they are humming/whistling/tapping. I appreciate that this is a tropical ASD stimming trait - am in no way suggesting your child may have ASD - but i totally feel your need for peace! Also nothing to do with attention. I often ask her to stop talking - it sometimes gets the odd dirty look when out and about.

If you don’t ask her to have a quiet moment / draw a picture/ look it up in her head then she won’t adapt to situations where she really needs to listen / give mummy 5 minutes

Some children have no filter in terms of their constant stream of talk - she will be fine with you doing this, life is a learning curve

I had two like this. It was amazing and lovely and they are bright and inquisitive (still are) and all that good stuff, but my god it was relentless. I used to do "sponsored silences" with them where I'd pay them £1 if they could not speak for 15 mins, just for that peace.
With respect to your mother, she's cleat forgotten what it is like and is talking ballcocks. Don't let her bother you.

My lovely 16 yo was like this at 4/5. Someone once described him as like a radio. He’s now been diagnosed as on the Autism spectrum aged 16
We still have really interesting conversations about quite deep topics and he is a thoughtful and kind person.it’s definitely nothing to do with you ignoring her

She's forgotten what it's like.

My youngest is much calmer now- in fact, she has great verbal skills and a brilliant vocabulary as I would give her full lengthy answers to questions because it actually bought me a moments peace from the chattering!

Her favourite one was 'how are rocks made?' I had no clue other than something to do with pressure? (Maybe) We looked that one up together (I'm still not much wiser....)

She is wrong. A question earlier in the had to do with 10 year old that did the same. Headphones would be my defense mechanism.

She is so very wrong and you have my sympathy. Having put my 5 year old daughter to bed I'm sitting in complete silence as I can't even bear the sound of the TV/radio/music after a day of her chat

Your child us asking you questions because they know you won't give the age old " because I said so" answer.
I got to the point, with my sprogs constant chatter, that I zoned out until asked a question.
Tell your mother that she needs to mind her own business.

I've got one of those! She's now 14 and is the only teenager I know who wants to sit and talk through her whole day with me after school each day - I love it!

Your mother has forgotten what it's like to have a little kid who never stops talking. Ignore her advice.

This is why I'm up every night until nearly 3am at the moment, just because I need my quiet time where nobody is trying to talk to me. 😁

How unfair of your mother, following her 'logic' your daughter talks all the time when she's with your mum as your mum isn't paying attention to her.

Why don't you go away for a weekend and ask your mother to kindly take care of your daughter so you can have a relaxing couple of days with your partner/friends? It will also give her additional time to bond with her granddaughter over lots of little chats. 🌹

Op, my daughter is a chatterbox as well and we often get comments about it from both acquaintances and strangers. Lots of people who meet her for the first time ask if she doesn't get out much or doesn't have any friends because they think apparently she talks so much when they meet her because at other times she doesn't have anyone to talk to.

But I know of course that actually she just always talks so much. Every daY. And sometimes I do have to switch off so I can focus on something else.

When she doesn't talk though I miss it and wonder if something is wrong..

Story tapes saved my sanity. When you really can't talk anymore. My DC had a stock of audio books they would sit calmly and listen to.