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Wibu to wear this dress to a wedding?

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squashedalmondcroissant · 10/08/2023 10:06

I don't attend many weddings or any kind of dressy occasions really so I don't have much suitable but I have one next week! I saw this in a charity shop and thought it was lovely, I know the general rule is to stay away from white/cream/ivory just in case! Would I be frowned upon by the other guests? Or is it ok because it's covered in flowers?

Wedding is quite casual, think farm/barn/country vibes with an attached campsite where we are staying. I have another dress I could use but it creases very easily and since we're camping I'm worried it will look awful on the day!

Wibu to wear this dress to a wedding?
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Shirtella · 10/08/2023 10:08

I think it’s lovely and would suit the vibe perfectly.

minipie · 10/08/2023 10:09

Looks lovely. Definitely not bridal. Might be too informal for a smart town/evening wedding but for what you’ve described it’s great.

AndyMcFlurry · 10/08/2023 10:10

No it’s fine. Not remotely bridal.

Busubaba · 10/08/2023 10:11

Lovely dress. Perfectly suitable for the type of wedding you are attending.

Merryoldgoat · 10/08/2023 10:30

Totally fine.

vibecheck · 10/08/2023 11:04

I think it depends on the couple - I know I’ll probably get torn apart on here but among my friends and I that dress would be given a bit of side eye at a wedding. I think younger brides are particularly aware of no white at weddings for guests, in my experience. Just my advice, I wouldn’t wear it and if you were my sister asking me this I’d say it’s better to be safe than sorry!

Bookworm20 · 10/08/2023 11:09

I think thats fine for the type of wedding you've described. And it looks predominantly brown to me, not in the least like a bridal dress.

StarlightLady · 10/08/2023 11:11

I'd wear it.

Ponoka7 · 10/08/2023 11:13

I'm very traditional on dress codes and I think that is fine. Will the bride be in white, or cream?

FloopyZebra · 10/08/2023 11:13

vibecheck · 10/08/2023 11:04

I think it depends on the couple - I know I’ll probably get torn apart on here but among my friends and I that dress would be given a bit of side eye at a wedding. I think younger brides are particularly aware of no white at weddings for guests, in my experience. Just my advice, I wouldn’t wear it and if you were my sister asking me this I’d say it’s better to be safe than sorry!

I think you need to give your head a wobble if you think that dress is too white and not appropriate for a wedding!
The world has gone mad.

SkipHopJumpSplatWallop · 10/08/2023 11:14

I think it looks great for the type of wedding you have described. It doesn’t look anything like something a bride would wear, only an extremely ridiculous bridezilla type could take any issue with it.

Clefable · 10/08/2023 11:14

Perfect for that style of wedding, OP! Not remotely bridal or bridal party. It's a floral dress.

ANiceBigCupOfTea · 10/08/2023 11:14

Lovely dress and sounds very suitable to me

Clefable · 10/08/2023 11:16

vibecheck · 10/08/2023 11:04

I think it depends on the couple - I know I’ll probably get torn apart on here but among my friends and I that dress would be given a bit of side eye at a wedding. I think younger brides are particularly aware of no white at weddings for guests, in my experience. Just my advice, I wouldn’t wear it and if you were my sister asking me this I’d say it’s better to be safe than sorry!

Think you and your friends sound a bit unpleasant to be giving anyone 'side eye' for wearing a totally normal floral dress to a wedding. It sounds a bit horrible and bitchy.

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squashedalmondcroissant · 10/08/2023 11:17

Ponoka7 · 10/08/2023 11:13

I'm very traditional on dress codes and I think that is fine. Will the bride be in white, or cream?

You know what..I actually have no idea! I haven't met them before because they live quite far away but it's one of dp's best friends who is getting married so I don't want to embarrass him or myself by wearing something inappropriate 😂

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BungaBungaBung · 10/08/2023 11:18

I wouldn't wear it because it's ugly.

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squashedalmondcroissant · 10/08/2023 11:19

Bookworm20 · 10/08/2023 11:09

I think thats fine for the type of wedding you've described. And it looks predominantly brown to me, not in the least like a bridal dress.

The lighting isn't brilliant but it's a cream background with dusky pink/peachy flowers. I would also consider it a floral dress but I know people can be quite strict when it comes to weddings 😬

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VeridicalVagabond · 10/08/2023 11:24

We had a more casual style wedding like the one your described, and one of my close friends wore something similar. She looked lovely and no one batted an eyelid. There were quite a few people in floaty pale florals. People were more agog at my cousin's girlfriend who wore an elaborate bejewelled ball gown. It was pink not white but it didn't fit with the vibe of the wedding at all and she stuck out like a sore thumb!

I think for a chill boho barn wedding this will be perfect.

vibecheck · 10/08/2023 11:25

@FloopyZebra @Clefable whether you agree or not it doesn’t change the fact that I wanted to tell OP that if she came to a wedding in my circle she might be considered to be wearing too much white/cream. I’d want to know that and I presume she does as she asked Mumsnet!

vibecheck · 10/08/2023 11:26

@squashedalmondcroissant oh to be fair, if the background of the dress is pink not white/cream then I agree this is fine.

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 10/08/2023 11:28

I think the florals dominate rather than the background colour. It will be fine for an informal wedding.

Daffodildilys · 10/08/2023 11:29

That’s fine to wear to an informal wedding. Have a lovely day.

MarciaSaysANumber · 10/08/2023 11:33

What’s the fabric, and can it be starched? My feeling is it’s a perfectly nice dress for a day in the country, but it’s not really bringing the energy I’d expect from a wedding guest frock. If it’s a bright sunny day and you’re beautifully groomed with lovely celebratory accessories it will probably be fine. Gloomy or wet day and everyday accessories - you might look as if you wandered in by accident.

Guess it depends on the exact vibe of the wedding party?

Redavocadoes · 10/08/2023 11:33

Can you contact the bride or someone close to her and ask if this is OK or too close to her own colours?

foolishone · 10/08/2023 11:33

I think it's lovely for the type of wedding you describe.
The risk is whether any bridesmaids are wearing that style/that dress. I think it's the sort of thing I'd consider for bridesmaids for a casual country wedding.