Would I be unreasonable?

[CleverLilViper]

I've got a hen party at the weekend for a wedding that I'm due to be a bridesmaid at.

Everything is booked and paid for-we all paid for our own tickets, etc. The only thing left to pay for is drinks etc. It looks like there's going to be a few people going.

This week I've come down with the flu. Pretty badly. It started on Monday and I've just felt bad since then. So bad I've had to take it off work-normally I'd just WFH when ill and power through.

I'm hoping to feel better for the hen party-but of course as it's nearing, I'm starting to become concerned that I won't feel up to it. I just feel really weak and have lost my taste, and keep getting headaches and feeling sick. Overall, I just feel rubbish.

Would I be the AH if I had to drop out due to illness? I feel like I'd be letting everyone down, but I honestly, unless I have a massive recovery, I can't imagine dragging myself around feeling as I do. I've thought about just going to half of it and then heading home if I feel up to that but then I feel like that'll look bad and I don't want to let anyone down or make anyone think I don't want to be there when I do.

I don't really know what I'm asking-just want opinions on if I'd unreasonable to drop out due to sickness (hopefully I make a recovery) or if I should just power through to prevent letting anyone down.

Sounds like you could have covid. Wait a few days and see how you feel. I had covid a few weeks ago and felt shocking, but after about 5 days felt back to normal again. Was awful for a few days but as soon as I started to feel better I felt fine really quickly.

Proper flu is awful, so no you wouldn’t be unreasonable.

Id probably try and make an effort to attend part of it though . If you were a normal hen I think it would be fine but as you’re a BM the bride will probably be quite disappointed that you’re not there

J would let the bride and other bridesmaids know how that you’re unwell and taken the week off of work.
It sounds like you have the flu or even covid. I would take a test to double check.
You’ve still got a couple of days to see if you improve so you could hopefully try attend some of the events instead of all of them.
If you’re unwell you’re unwell and it can’t be helped!

Let them know now how ill you are.

Yes she'll be disappointed and so will you if you can't make it. But if you're too ill, you're too ill. And if there's a chance you're still infectious then noone will thank you for bringing it to the hen weekend.

Thank you all.

Hopefully by the weekend I'll be feeling better and up to it (or at least some of it) and be able to go. I'll definitely let her know now so she's aware in advance that I may not be able to attend.

I'll feel absolutely awful if I'm not able to go but I know I'd feel worse if I passed something on to someone else.

How long until the wedding? You certainly would not be thanked if you passed on a virus that took out the bride and her closest friends!
If you're ill, don't go, you won't enjoy it.

Let them know the state of affairs now, and you can make your decision on Friday. It's just one of those things, op. You can't help that you got sick. This happened to me when it was my beloved uncle's funeral and the whole family was there. I had to miss it, there was no other option. I was sick as hell.

How far away is the wedding? You don't want to risk making the bride sick!

I would send her a message now and give her a heads up, but say you hope to be feeling better by the weekend.

The wedding isn't for a few months so no risk of ruining it.

I was thinking if I did end up missing it I could maybe do a mini-one for her a little later on. Just a meal together and some drinks or something like that to make up for it. Hopefully that won't happen but I guess it is an option if I can't make it.

I'd give a heads up to bride but say you are doing all you can for recovery. I'd be taking echinacea, Vit c and d and zinc plus cold n flu and first defence. Lots of steam, fluids and rest.