Worried I don't have the personality to work in care

[Baconsandwich33]

I work in a couple of different care settings, domiciliary as well as care homes. Some of it is via an agency which makes it a challenge from the start as lot of permanent staff don't like 'the agencies'.
I get it, it's difficult working with someone who doesn't know the routine and who you have to explain new things to. Some residents don't like having agency staff see to them either.
Anyway, I've shadowed a few people/worked as a pair and so on and often the other carer will have a lot of banter with the resident/client.
Or, they're very affectionate, "Hello my beautiful angel, I love you so much."
Or having lots of in jokes.
I do genuinely care for the residents and clients, I'm polite, interested in them, smile and I'm helpful.
I just don't have that sort of personality and I'm more quiet. I'm not by any means cold or rude, though.
Some companies promote themselves heavily on social media, and carers regularly get nominated by clients in home care. It's often the same names.
I don't know how to instantly build that rapport with people. I don't believe I'm hard to get on with, I'm just more reserved, however I'm professional and do my job properly.
Maybe I'm just overthinking it, I know my hard work and gentle approach is appreciated, but I've never been popular anywhere in life and I'm just worried I am not the right person for care work.

Also I always say if you are starting from a place of genuine care for people and you have common sense, everything else can be taught. You find your own way with each resident. We're all different, just because people need care doesn't mean they all want to be treated the same.

Your approach doesn't treat older people like children or idiots

One of our most valuable and valued member of staff (of 35) has just your personality.
Strong, steady, reliable, just the same if it's sunny or rainy, trusted by the people we support to be fair and treat everyone the same, no favourites.
Of course, every setting needs its live wires - gosh, we have a few personalities, but people who require support also need the stability factor as their safety net/psychological comfort blanket. The knowing that you will be there and will always behave in the same manner.

You’re also comparing yourself to other carers who have an established relationship with their clients. They may be more casual in their approach because they know the people involved where you don’t, so a more formal/less casual approach is appropriate for you rather than assuming Mrs Smith wants you using endearments.

I think you need to give yourself time and get to know the people you are supporting. Over time you build up a relationship with them and it may be different to the other relationships they have. You may well end up with in jokes and running gags of your own.

I'm not a "lovey" person and I don't really hug or use terms of endearment. But over time I do develop affection for people I support, and I value our time together. There are some people that still I think of 20 years later, and remember how helping get them ready for breakfast was the best part of my day.

If CQC hear residents being called patronising and infantilising names the home would be hauled over the coals. It's simply not acceptable. These people are adults and deserve respect. I'm a retired nurse and I know exactly the type of carer who behaves like this and they're not very intelligent people and would be better off working elsewhere tbh.