Tips for dealing with work stress?

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I can’t sleep and I’m barely eating. I don’t know if I’m over reacting I just feel sick constantly.

What specifically is causing the stress?

The best thing is to find another job.

Is your workplace supportive? If so, tell your manager.

Can you take time off?

Collesgue has found out that I have applied for another role through her friend in recruitment. I have reported it as it’s a breach of confidentiality. She has been bragging to colleagues that she will find out if I get offered the position before me due to her connections.

My manager hasn’t dealt with anything like this before so she just seems confused.

Did you post about this recently?

It seems a very minor thing to be overwhelmed by stress about. Is there more to it?

Have you spoken to a GP? If you are struggling that much then not being at work for a while might be the best thing. Or take a few days' leave to try to get away and get a bit of perspective - your manager being confused and another colleague being a twat aren't the worst things that could happen.

Your colleague sounds like a dickhead but I'd just focus on getting another job.

Yes I posted previously.

I don’t know why I’m getting so upset I think it’s more hurt because I actually quite like her.

Then for her to say I’m not worthy of a band 5 and her going behind my back to recruitment to get all the goss.

Then now the added pressure if i don’t get the job she will be laughing it up.

You need good sleep to cope with what life throws at you, including the small minded at your work.
Go and see a doctor or take a natural supplement to help you relax or sleep.
Good for you for applying for other jobs or areas.
There is always one in the workplace!

Focus on being above the morons and smile....I was told that - somedays you want to say alot more when you are tired or worn out.

Thank you. I am not sure why I am letting it bother me so much x

I don’t want to do the “she’s just jealous hun” thing but there’s probably an element of that. Channel your stress into imagining her in awful yet slightly comedy scenarios like shitting herself in a meeting, falling off a treadmill in front of loads of hot blokes or getting flattened by something falling from a tower crane.

And if you don’t get it, so what? Most of the other candidates won’t get it either. Better to show that you have a bit of ambition and you may get useful feedback. Good on you for going for it.

Oh most definitely a few people at work have said the same thing to me. Think I might just take the day off to sort my head out.

Don't take the day off to get your head sorted, this will just give them more fuel.
NHS right? Go and speak to your Freedom to speak up Guardian. Your manager isn't helping, go to their manager.

I feel drained I dont think I can sit through a day in the office.

So sorry you're going through this.

I would say take the day off if you need it, sometimes it's important to reset/restore energy levels.

Keep boundaries, as much as you can- both with relationships and your time.

By this I mean, stop stressful conversations as much as you can. You can't control what others say and do, only yourself. So if annoying colleague is stressing you out- or other people tell you what she has been saying, disengage. Have some stock phrases and change the conversation, "I don't have time to talk about that, I'm busy doing xxx" or "I'm on my break so I just want to enjoy my lunch right now" "what an odd thing to say! Anyway are you going anywhere nice on holiday?" I'm sure others will have more ideas.

Wherever possible try to leave on time (you said NHS so I appreciate that might be tough!) and leave work behind when you leave.

When you're in work, try and focus on the priority for today/this hour and don't beat yourself up about anything that you can't manage right now.

Take care and good luck