To be worried about what he will think?

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I was with a guy ten years ago and we got on well and were together for a while but then we broke up after we both went to university and just went separate ways, although I always missed him as he was my first love.

He has been back in touch with me recently and we have had quite a few dates and we still get on well and I’ve enjoyed getting to know him again.

I do have a DC from a previous relationship, he does know this and doesn’t have any problem with it but we are just taking things steady at the moment with no pressure of a relationship or anything like that, just seeing how it goes.

He has asked me over to his house though and has hinted at things but tbh I’m feeling self conscious as my body is definitely not what it used to be when I was with him ten years ago. I am in shape but I do have scarred stretch marks, c section over hang that I haven’t been able to get rid of no matter and of course a scar.

he will be the first guy I have slept with since having my DD. She’s 3 now. I just feel a bit nervous and worried what he will think

Presumably he is ten years older too! Your nerves are understandable but if he likes you it will be fine.
if you're dating and about to have sex, isn't that a relationship though?

As PP says, his body is probably different too.

If you want to sleep with him get some underwear you like if you can, and use lightning to build your confidence till you get used to each other. If you can be at your house that’s better, if you can just ask him to dim the light if you want.

Same as what has already been said but wanted to add c-section overhang isn't something you can properly get rid of without further surgery. I know this as I also have the c-section overhang and tried for years to get rid of it too. I've embraced it now, without it I wouldn't have my children and it's just a part of my life story.
Yours will be absolutely fine too and I'm sure the guy will just be happy to see you and won't be expecting the 10 years ago physical version of you, just the same as you aren't expecting the 10 years ago physical version of him.
Good luck and have fun!

Hi everyone thank you for your comments

would this put any one off?

He said he’s really not bothered about it. He said he’s been with a few women who have had c sections. Don’t know why he felt he had to tell me that though. Then he asked me why I had to have one he said is it because you’re so tight 🫤

Ew.

Are you sure you want to get involved with someone like that?

I don't think he was intending it to sound like that - strikes me as the sort of dumb thing guys say when presented with a difficult conversation they hadn't even considered. Like "I'm self-conscious about my C-section scars, and I'm worried about what you'll think" - the immediate male reaction to that is:

"Shitshitshit, think quick...something that'll make her feel better, pay her a compliment or something, make sure she understands that you don't care about it"

...and it all comes out sounding far worse than it did in their head.