To not text this man back!

[midnightblue12]

So basically someone I went to work with works in one of our local supermarkets.
I was friends with him in primary school but went down different paths in high schools. I'd say hello to him and I have nothing against him, wish him well etc, but that really is it. Probably not have a conversation with him since being about 12. Now mid thirties
Anyway he works in our local supermarket and a few times he's said hello/joked about how often I've gone in. I've been polite and said hello but secretly been annoyed that it's been pointed out how much I go it 😅 just eat me shop in peace please with no shame 😂
Anyway, he randomly sent me a message, again joking how often o go on, saying I'm beautiful and asking me if I'm single.
Idk why it just made me feel uneasy. Obviously it's a lovely compliment but I just didn't want to reply as I didn't want to start a conversation about my relationship status and just want to be left alone.
But now I feel bad ignoring the message.....

Aibu to leave it?

You are not being at all unreasonable. You don’t have to interact with this man - and you shouldn’t feel guilted into replying (even if it’s you doing the guilting). You don’t owe him anything, and you have every right to your boundaries.

Just leave it. If you respond it could open a can of worms you’ll regret.
Oooooh no!
Stop even thinking about it. Don’t be a people pleaser. Apart from a tenuous school collection he’s nothing to you.
Who gave him your number?

• School connection ….

How did he get your number?

How s he got your number?

Ahh sorry just seen the typo on the first lien! I didn't work with him, we went to primary school together 😅
Th m you both, I guess I am a people pleaser to some degree! My mum said just lie and say you're not single but I don't really want to do that. I just think it's weird to send me, who is now a complete stranger, a message saying that.
Now feel weird going into my favourite supermarket :(

He sent me a message on Facebook! So I've just archived it and not opened it!

Ugh why do they do this

Honestly, these sort of posts drive me mad. Why on Earth would you think you were being unreasonable? You have no obligation to his person, none whatsoever.

he randomly sent me a message, again joking how often o go on, saying I'm beautiful and asking me if I'm single.

How did you read all that without opening it? I can only get half a sentence if I hover?

YANBU to just ignore it though.

Which supermarket?

So don't answer then 🤷

Just block. You do not need to answer this man!

Just ignore it and never go back into that supermarket!

It would never enter my head to reply to a message like that. You don't owe him any response! And anything you did say would be interpreted as encouragement by someone who says that sort of guff. Ignore him.

And no, OP, I'm afraid it's not a lovely compliment. Would you message someone you met in the supermarket and say you think they're gorgeous? I doubt it, because it would be creepy and presumptuous.

You shouldn't need to pretend your the "property" of another man to get this one to back off. Gross. You owe him nothing whatsoever in return for the flattery, you owe it to yourself to be honest if he continues to pester and tell him you're not interested in him in any way, at all.

I can see a full message from the drop down notifications on my phone without opening it. And that is for WhatsApp, FB messenger and normal messages (spam only now 🤣)

@WhateverMate I don't actually remember it just came up as a banner when the message came through. Pretty sure the message just said "you're so gorgous are you single" or something like that! But not going back to the message as don't want to open it!

@Mrsphilmiller my favourite one!!!

Thanks all. I just needed the reassurance. I agree with what you've all said and I would say that to anyone else asking. Just needed some confidence because I do over think offending people.

You're absolutely right!

This, 100%!

You just don't send these things to basic strangers. And it's a bit mission accomplished for him as you now feel uncomfortable to ignore his message, despite the fact you don't know him! I would hate this and I'm not even single, I would be worried about his reaction and using the shop after turning him down. Eurgh, some men!

It's not a lovely message. We're conditioned to be nice to pushy blokes.

If you don't want to be firm or feel awkward. Message him back saying 'why are you messaging my girlfriend?' and then block.

He'll probably give you a swerve after that.

I'm old and don't take crap like this anymore, but I did for a long time. It's shit that these blokes put us in this position in the first place.