How much did you or would you risk your health to have a child?

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I'm wondering how much you would have gambled with your health when you decided to try to get pregnant? What would have been your line in the sand?

I probably won't have a baby due to my health. Still I have a part of me that really can't let go, forever. Hence mulling it over.

I have a severe chronic health condition that requires strong drugs to keep it under control. My first pregnancy made my condition significantly worse for many reasons, but we did want another child. I had to stop my medication, though, and this didn't help my health at all. When my newborn was 3 months old, I had to make the decision to stop breastfeeding and go back on the medication for my health. My health didn't really stabilise until my children were teenagers.

I gambled a lot. Possibly with my life, but we all die eventually. Right decision for me

I was desperate to have children. I wanted to be a mum more than anything. So I would have risked anything if the chances were good enough (probably not if a 25% chance of death or permanent disability for example) But a chance of being left with discomfort, wouldn't have stopped me, as not having them would have broken my heart forever.
That said, I'd have liked more than I have but couldn't risk complications with my health now as they need me (I had traumatic births)
All this is very much based on my perspective of wanting children, which was more intense than a lot any of my friends or relatives, so it's relative to that.

Nothing as it's notfair on the child, all well and good saying I got my 'wish' but pointless if I can't parent the child I wanted so not fair on them

I know a lady who always wanted a few children. She is married, had a good job and she got pregnant. Her pregnancy was not easy and she ran into problems when in labour. Both her and the baby were lucky to live after what happened. She was told not to have any more children after this due to what happened.

One of my friends had non stop sickness the whole of her last pregnancy. She was planning to have another baby. After what happened she decided to wait a while. She then found out her child had some health issues. She decided not to have another child as she needed to be well for the 2 kids she already had.

I have had to have 2 c sections and was suicidal during my first mat leave as I never thought I would rest or sleep again. I’ve had to be under specialist care for my second birth. I love my kids so much but I wouldn’t risk my mental health again or a 3rd c section.