To be Angry that my MIL told people when I'd asked her not to

[moodywren]

I got a text from my SIL monday night saying 'Congratulations are you hoping for girl?'

We told MIL on Sunday that we've just found out I'm pregnant, we told them 4 times that we didn't want anyone else to know yet. I nearly lost ds2 3 times and until we know everythings ok don't want to tell dcs as wouldn't want to have to tell them bad news if I lose this one.

And I am now worried that someone will let it slip to dd1, my ds's wouldn't understand anyway yet.
Found out she also told other SIL.

She said 'Don't see why couldn't tell as I am the grandmother, haven't I got a right to be excited and tell people too? And you told your best friend so the family should be told!'

Well unless she's going to move in with you, or you call her when you go into labour, how will she know?!

I would be pissed off if I were you, but if in all other areas you have a good relationship, as someone else has suggested I would make a joke about not telling her something as you don;t want everyone else finding out and leave it at that. If she makes a comment then explain that you were really upset at the time but what is done is doen and lets look forward to the new baby.

Anyway - good luck!

I had the same thing! DP freaked out a little when the blue line appeared (even though it was planned) and called his mum - fair enough. But she then told BIL, so we had to tell FIL (divorced from MIL) in case BIL told. Then felt compelled to tell my parents - meanwhile FIL's partner told her best friend, who told her sister, who told another guy we barely know... this list is endless. By the end of it, we got congratulations from local rugby players before my grandparents knew (since my mum was able to keep it a secret!)

Consequently, DP is banned from telling MIL our ideas for names, as she will certainly blab about them, and get hooked on one and upset if we don't choose it after all.... it is a nightmare!

No real advice, just wanted to let you know you are not alone...

Thanks for all your messages, I am calming down a bit now. Just feel a bit deflated its like its not my pregnancy any more its everybody elses.

Saw MIL today and we haven't really talked about her telling everybody, dh did all the talking when letting her know how upset we were. She sat on my sofa telling me how excited my SIL is to be an auntie again, and how as soon as ds1 gets over chicken pox she's coming over to visit and spend time with me(she's never been over to visit unless its dcs birthdays and she feels she has to). It really felt like MIL was rubbing my nose in the fact that she knows, I know thats really paranoid and I am being unreasonable maybe its my hormones!!