To be sick of being the peace keeper

[FunnysInLaJardin]

I have always done this.

As a child I felt like the only adult in a family of 5 who the nearest to me in age was 13 years older. My sisters were 13 and 16 when I was born and my parents in their 40's. They still all say how sensible and considered I am.

In work, I am always trying to calm the waters and create harmony between different personalities.

At home, I do the same mostly between DH and my eldest DS who is 17 and whilst a lovely child, totally walks to the beat of his own drum.

I am sick of sucking up all the shit all the time.

However I know that if I lost it then everyone would be horrified.

Maybe I should

Just learn to stay out of things people are adults and can make their own decision or have their own arguments
Just nod and say okay

But that’s life, in life you can’t always teach people lessons, you can always show them the way (but most people only learn lessons the hard way, by themselves) let them row, let them have battles, it’s how people learn and grow.

You haven’t even learnt your own lesson, maybe you need to learn it the hard way too? Sometimes it really is the only way.

You’re not here to keep everyone else happy, you’re not here to keep the peace, live your own life and stop doing this because it’s clearly making you unhappy.

OP I'm the same. And they think I'm the calm one which would be great if I was but the truth is I get really stressed about it.