Had it with my sister

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So I have an older sister, who for many years has always treated my like rubbish. Im a quiet person and she’s always found ways to take advantage of that and I think it’s mostly to do with her always being competitive with me. Shes divorced and I’m married and ever since she got divorced she’s gotten worse to the point where friends have asked if she’s my blood sister cos of how she treats me. Sometimes it little things and sometimes it’s big things. For example she’s asked a friend before to talk to me about leaving my husband, she just never liked him cos everyone else in my family likes him or when we went into business together and she decided she wanted out so she left me with all the debts the business had accumulated (which wasn’t part of our agreement) and a lot more things she’s done. So for those who have fallen out with their sisters, how did you get over it? Thanks

I don't get along with my sibling, I only see them a couple of times a year and have significantly minimised the amount of information they have about my life, this has helped.

Yeh as above, you’re not going to change them. You could be describing my sister.

My sister has treated me like dirt ever since we were kids and one day I just decided to not put up with it anymore. That was 11 years ago and going no contact with her was the best decision I ever made, I have no regrets.

NC is sometimes the only way forward and life will be a lot easier as a result.

I’m sorry she makes you feel that way and has treated you badly. You go low or no contact. It’s the only way for your own sanity.

My sister is 100% a covert narcissist. Look it up, it’s an eye opener.

NC with older sister for about 14 years. No regrets.

My youngest sister was always treated with love and I admit I rather spoilt her with gifts etc as there is a large disparity in our ages. For most of her childhood she was like an only child. Things changed when she became a adult and she tried to isolate me from the rest of the family. I have absolutely no idea why. Eventually the relationship became so toxic I had to protect myself by goingNC.
I have never regretted it. The angst/grief was ended. Others have volunteered to me just how spiteful and grasping she is.
Now I rarely think of her and her very existence is an irrelevance.
Good luck OP

I recommend very low contact v no contact because it will be easier on you. I am nc with a few of my siblings by choice and no regrets, it’s much easier a few years down the road but very painful at the start.

YABU to keep putting yourself in a situation where she can hurt you.

Go very low contact.

Sometimes sisters can be nastier than enemies.

No point trying to figure out why she's so hateful to you, or what you can do to make things better - you can't.

You CAN choose not to put up with it by dropping contact. You CAN tell her to Fuck Off if she tries to reel you in. You are not obliged to keep a relationship with her.

Drop the rope, as the popular saying on here goes.