I work in dementia care, and yesterday was in a nursing dementia home. The entire home smelled of faeces, a large number of patients were bedridden, had to be spoon fed baby food, doubly incontinent, could no longer communicate. Basically just being kept alive.
There are residents shouting and wailing out loud all day long 'help me, help me, I want to go home, where are my Mum and Dad'. All day.
There are some that are still very physically mobile but their minds are completely gone, there were some ladies who used to be nurses or carers themselves in their younger days.
Residents would try to go to the toilet on the floor, sexually and verbally assault other residents and staff, strip naked in public rooms, and so on.
I had a pounding headache by the end of the day. It turns people into overgrown toddlers in a way, having to constantly stop residents from touching things they shouldn't, going into rooms they shouldn't, throwing food.
Some of the permanent care staff were quite abrupt and short tempered, however it's an incredibly demanding job for little over minimum wage, and they're often pressured into working ridiculous hours. I don't think 12 hour days should be the standard, it's too much.
Anyway, I always read people saying that as soon as they start to lose capacity, or lose their independence, they're off to Dignitas, or will just end their own lives some way.
I look at these residents and others and I think, well what happened to them all? Did they ever consider doing that? Perhaps it's something that people say but understandably could not bring themselves to carry out.
It was just heartbreaking though. What do you do when you know you'll only decline?