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AIBU?

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To have gone home?

4 replies

Mothermotherd · 06/08/2023 20:03

Family who don’t live in the UK have visited this weekend and I haven’t seen them since before lockdown. I love them to bits and they are lovely company so I have been to meet them every day since Friday. Other relatives who do live in my city have joined as well so has been a crowd of about 10.

We arranged to go for a meal this evening but I have been with some of them since this morning. I am utterly burnt out as I have suspected ASD and ADHD so it has took a lot of energy to concentrate and engage in conversations that have gone on for hours in busy public places. Have just met up with everyone for the meal but on the train ride there my relative who means no malice has a habit of nudging you as he says something and leaning in. I absolutely cannot stand to be touched, only okay with my partner as he is my safe person but even sometime im too overloaded and he knows to give physical space when we are together.

By the time we got off the train after being nudged for an hour, I was in complete sensory overdrive which I knew was making me irritable and stressed. I said I was sorry but had work in the morning and couldn’t stay for the meal. my family don’t know about my sensory Issues so I don’t know if they’ll think I was being rude.

AIBU for going home or should I have sucked it up for their last evening? I wouldn’t have gotten home until 11/11.30 if I’d stayed.

OP posts:
DustyLee123 · 06/08/2023 21:41

Sounds like you’ve done your bit, just say that you didn’t feel well, and didn’t want to pass it on.

Lindy2 · 06/08/2023 21:46

It's ok to say you are too tired and don't feel up to it.

Changingplace · 06/08/2023 21:48

Sounds fine to me, you’ve seen them loads, I’d be done by now & want to go home too.

Lapflop · 06/08/2023 21:51

Meh you've spent time with them and they can still go out for a meal with eachother so no don't feel bad. I also have sensory issues and it's not easy but do advocate for yourself if you can rather than suffer through!

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