Cf parents or me?

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Right I don't want to be outing but I'm actually a bit annoyed.

My sister (30 with autism) got concert tickets for her birthday. Standing and hard to get cost around £300.

I want to add she is going to the tour four times in 4 other cities with friends.

Because my parents didn't want her to go on her own they have also given me concert tickets for my birthday £300)

I don't like the singer have no interest in going and I'm also a young (early 20s) single mum in tempary accommodation. I my children need nappies and food and that £300 would of got my daughter a bed to replace her travel cot she's currently in.

I'm really annoyed should I just let it go and stop being selfish.

I think I'm most annoyed that it's a gift for my sister on my birthday and I'm jealous

They should buy you your own birthday present!
How thoughtless!

If they want you to accompany your sister they should buy you a ticket separately to your birthday gift and ask if you are happy to go with her as a favour first.

I agree with everyone else - that's a mean present for you. Do they know your financial situation? I'd tell them you're planning on selling it, & they can have first refusal to buy it. If they don't want it, sell it and buy your baby a cot.

I can't understand their thinking at all.

Surely, if your sister needs someone to accompany her, then they spend £600 on getting your sister 2 tickets and support her to find someone to accompany her.

However what sort of Parents / Grandparents would spend £600 on letting one dd go to a concert of an act the dd has seen 4 times without these tickets, but let the other dd live in temporary accommodation and be worrying about where food and nappies are going to come from

No, I think that is lousy OP. That's like getting a babysitting job for your birthday. Sell it!

Oooof. That’s tough.

I have two sons. One is autistic. Their birthdays are days apart. I work soooooooo hard to ensure that their celebrations are completely separate and that they get what they want, not what their sibling would like them to want.

I have no idea how you’d raise that with a parent though. Maybe brutal honesty. “Mum, I appreciate that you thought I’d like this ticket, but it’s actually just made me really stressed. I’m going to sell it to buy a new cot and to get some cheaper treats I’ll really cherish.” (Then hope she buys it off you and makes it much easier!!)

This - and the other posters who said the same.

I'd tell yoir parents you need to buy dc a bed so you are selling your ticket

It's YOUR birthday, not your bloody sisters. I bet you've spent years accommodating her needs. You really need to stand up for yourself and tell your parents, you can't and don't want to go. They should have actually asked you before shelling out £300 on a ticket, so it's their problem.
It'll probably cost you money to go too, travel, eating, child care etc.
Time to stand up for yourself.

Jeez that's really really shitty of your parents!

Sell the fucking ticket for as much as you can. Tell your parents to go to hell.

You are certainly NOT selfish

What is your relationship with your sister like?