Amir Khan & wife. Why dont they just split

[Dovetail40]

He constanly cheats then buys his wife gifts to compensate.

She meanwhile just threatens women who have been with her thick husband.

Jeez just split up.
Surely you both can't be happy.

If she leaves him, would she want to stay in the uk?
Her family are in the US. It would be very difficult for her to take her kids back.

And unfortunately even in this day and age, there is a lot of stigma attached to divorce in Asian cultures.

She could go yo USA.

They sigma of divorce for Asian women living in the west is not really an issue anymore.

Also her own mother was divorced and remarried.

her name is Faryal Makhdoom,
I cant imagine that she happy with everything shes gone through in the marriage, his mother apparently doesnt like her and now cheating

I also thought she looked like Kate Middleton before.

They both seem disfunctional.

I strongly get the impression he has been financially taken advantage of by his family, also saying he has CET isn't too far fetched as most fighters get it to some degree.

She has obviously had too much plastic surgery and seems trapped, maybe she doesn't want to leave for the kids sake.

I would say their best bet is to move to the US away from his family and the media. Not sure if they will do that though.

I think she was probably innocent at the beginning where she thought he loved her, she was very young and then when he cheated, I think it changed her so much that she wanted to ‘show’ him she’s not a ‘plain Jane’, I vaguely remember her mentioning that in the tv show how she was dull before.

She left him and then she came back, I bet they made a deal that it would be a marriage of convenience where she’d have control over things more. She has had lots of issues with his family and I think she found it hard to adapt to the cultural expectations of his family, who could blame her.

Coming from a closely linked community I have seen there is a lot of misogyny towards her for her appearance (even before all the fillers) which I don’t think is easy for her and I think she’s ‘rebelled’ more for that reason. She’s basically saying ‘I don’t give a f what you think’ and wants to enjoy the fame and money now that she knows he’s not loyal. That’s what I have seen happen in similar circumstances with women (minus the fame).

I don’t think people end up doing such a u turn on their looks when they are happy inside. I think she’s making the best of the situation. On the tv show I just can’t see any chemistry between them. Having said that I take what I see about them with a pinch of salt, the tv show is all about how they want others to perceive them. It’s very fake. I wouldn’t be surprised if this is a publicity stunt to keep them in the papers. But I think the hate towards her is misogyny. People never liked her because she dared to not follow the cultural norms. It was always poor Amir and his family.

His family have behaved appallingly towards her and she was young and naive when she married.
He wont change and there is no chemistry between them.
If she just wants mobey and fame, fine stay.

But not worth it imo.

Emotional toil for her and impact on kids. No.

Yes I agree, but it probably is worth it for her. The alternative means she’d end up with an average joe while trying to coparent with Amir and his family, which would be a headache given the drama. I guess she feels this is better than the alternative. Lots of people stay together for convenience especially if they have a brand built on it but they’re sending all the wrong messages to their kids.

I’m sure she would have stayed put in the US the first time she left him had he not had the fame and money. He went over there and must have convinced her to come back. I doubt her parents would have wanted her to be back with him.

Lord knows, same reason Coleen stays. I don’t think it’s just the money, both these women must love their husbands and they certainly don’t deserve these loyal wife’s that’s for sure. I don’t think Coleen or Faryal will ever leave - so the men can crack on cheating and giving expensive sorry gifts. So embarrassing for her

She will walk away with half of the assets about 34 million.

So no ordinary life.

@Dovetail40 yes but like I said she likes the fame, she would lose that. And then all the other complications of custody etc. Her family already have money, it’s the fame she likes and maybe she doesn’t want to be a single mother or co parent. I’m sure she wanted the marriage to be a success so maybe she feels is she goes back she’s failed in some way. Plus he’ll move on and maybe she doesn’t want that. Once she came back she completely transformed herself and I think it’s all about that life now. But i feel quite silly trying to understand the motives of people I have never met, I think they both were genuinely into eachother but they were both young. I think Faryal did expect him to be loyal to him. But anyway I’m probably way off the truth here 😂

The whole car apology thing & posting it on social media is so immature & cringe

I can't believe she is only just turned 32. I thought she was at least 45.

She looks stunning in her wedding photos.

www.hellomagazine.com/celebrities/2013060412889/amir-khan-exclusive-wedding/

Well this was a complete lie -

The Bolton born boxer told HELLO! how he is set to become a 'changed man' after marrying the political science student after a week long elaborate and energetic stunning Muslim ceremony.

The boxer, who just a month before his wedding day beat rival Julio Diaz in the ring, joked: "I had to get in there and tie the knot quickly, before I got beaten up in too many fights and lose my looks!"Talking of his marriage to the 21-year-old, he added: "I've lived the young life, I've done everything I've wanted to do. Now is the right time to settle down and start my own family."I've got to look after Faryal, so I won't be going out as much partying with my friends."I don't want that anymore - I want to do the family thing. "I think I'll change as a person when I'm married and it'll be a big plus for me, I'll be able to be more focused on my job too."

I'm sure most people have stayed in crappy relationships for a multitude of reasons. Some of the partnerships posted on MN are shocking and downright worse than this marriage. I'm sure she likes the money and security.

He likes shagging around and knows he can get away with it. She likes the money. Thet both like the drama and exposure in the papers.

Broken family?

Surely its time that that phrase was banished to the 1970s

The comment about asians women and divorce stigma is not really true anymore. Esp in the west.

That's more of a streotype.

Divorce happens, sad as it is but asian women will not stay in a marriage for fear of sigma from the community.

That is an out of date assumption.

I do somewhat agree with you and I didn’t mean to come across as the 1970s but I know of many people who still see it like that, my own experience of the Asian community would still say that divorce is seen as a hugely being stigmatised and often the women who will then be tarnished in the community. And sadly from what I have seen it’s still very much alive

I'm not sure it would be as simple as just packing up and moving the kids to the US, would it? I'm no expert but if the father objected then wouldn't it have to go through the courts etc?

Awful and puzzling that she was bullied for her appearance. Of course nobody should be but she was very classically pretty naturally and he's never been a looker so I don't know what it was about.

She is materialistic and loves the status. He doesn't want to lose half of his money in the divorce. Tacky af.

Dumb and Dumber springs to mind.

Tarnished?

Not my experience.
Yes, individuals and familes are disappointed in a marriage breakdown as are people in all other cultures would be.

But im sorry the sigmatised from community nonsense is proper out of date.
With Asians in the UK especially.

it depends which community you are referring to. Asian is very broad, and subcommunifjrs have different levels of progress. British Pakistani community it’s very much still a stigma. Obviously Not All but where there are tight knit communities there is still stigma. I agree yes families generally are a lot more progressive but many families are still very much expecting their daughters/daughter in laws to conform. I have seen educated career women come home from work and still feed the patriarchy, conform to their in laws’ rules etc due to not wanting a divorce. Ofcourse this happens in all communities but some communities will go out of their way to keep these ‘traditions’.

I’m not sure where you live but I have links to a fair few communities in the U.K. and there are still many communities still very much in the village mentalities and misogyny and double standards are still present. More of the modern girls are not conforming and getting divorced but it’s still not without issue but thankfully it’s changing, just not as fast as it should imo. They are definitely more progressive in the US but families may seem modern on the surface but dig deeper they still have those attitudes.

There are many many familes who have had members divorced. It is actually quite common to have divorce in the pakistani community now.

The reason for not divoricing is not because of stigma from community it may be other financial reasons etc.

But the sterotype about been ostracised is BS.

Younger women tend not giving a flying duck about what the communtiy will say and rightly so.

The familes of the women support them.

Some like Amir's wife, or other non asian women chose to stay with their husbands. That is their choice.

Stigma, ostracised is nonsense.

I say this as a british pakistani.

Yes what I have witnessed is very different as a British Pakistani woman. Like I said it’s changing but not to the extent it should. I work in schools with teenagers and it’s shocking really. Yes less divorces, less arranged marriages but some mentalities aren’t going to go away too quickly, yes amongst younger women where the misogyny is very much internalised. Many girls are still very sheltered and will not want to upset families. Are you a man by any chance?