To have cried just now?

[Rainfull091]

As an almost 40 something year old woman who is single, no kids and unattractive and quiet, I often see no use of me for this world. Today, at sainsburys a woman was walking in front of me and on her shirt it said something like 'The person reading this behind me makes the world a better place ' or something to that extent and it made me cry a little. I don't believe it, of course it could have been anyone walking behind her, but still, it was nice.

No use? What job do you do? Could you find some time to volunteer locally with something that interests you? I don’t think your worth is your weight or your attractiveness ever… so even if you were stunning would that be “enough”? That you exist for the pleasure of other people to look at??
Tell is some facts about you- no judgement attached, just a bit more than what you’re NOT…

If it impacted you, then it was ment for you.

You matter x

Don't want to say too much as would be outed.
My job makes a difference but I do not enjoy it. I have never really enjoyed work at all and never been the type to dream of a job or to be a career woman. Neither do I fit the wife and mother role so I feel lost and very different at times.
Was just nice to have that moment earlier where I felt for a minute that I belonged.

I have had times in my life where I have felt like this - not feeling like I am in life in the same way that everyone else is. It felt lonely. But as I have got older I have realised that this can be a natural part of life and we all go through stages where it's "my time". But order to turn things you have to get out and seek new experiences to move to a new stage, This can be changing jobs, joining a group, travelling somewhere different, reconnecting with own friends.

If you keep trying new things and making small changes "your time" eventually come. I promise you.

I would have done too if I'd read that, the way I'm feeling.

I guarantee that somewhere along the path of your life you will have changed a life, said or done something profound that impacted significantly on someone. The problem is you won't know that you did. No-one of us exist in a vacuum and our very existence impacts on those around us - know to us AND not known to us.

I know this all sounds very "Wonderful Life" but it's true.

Both my and DH working in the same place for many years. We've both moved on now, but I have bumped into a couple of people I used to work with and in conversation (discussing DH very poor health) they told me what a huge difference DH made to their lives. He was unaware of this and I wouldn't have been told if it wasn't for the circumstances, but it made me realise that from day to day you just don't know whose life is a better place becuase of something you did. Especially if it is something insignificant that you wouldn't expect it have such an impact.

Trust this. You matter. You just don't realise you do.

You were meant to see that and you matter. Think of the effect you’re having on all the people reading this thread.
You matter.

That t-shirt messsge was meant for you. Whether you believe in God or fate or woo sometimes the cosmos does something that is needed.

I hope I make a difference somehow in someone's life as I feel I have no relevance somehow.
It was a busy store so for me to be the one behind the lady meant something. Even if I'm just trying to convince myself it did.

Hope you're feeling better OP x

I'm confused as to why you're on Mumsnet if you don't have kids?

Lots of people are on Mumsnet who don't have kids. It's evolved into a huge forum with lots of different talk topics, not all of which are about parenting.

@Rainfull091 don't worry about being of use, none of us are any use really, the opposite in fact! Just concentrate on enjoying life, you only get one and the chances of you actually having been born are so slim that each and every one of us is special. There's no reason for us to be here, it's just a fluke, so enjoy it!