I had a conversation with my manager in our regular catch up session and he told me that he thinks there are areas I should get involved but I'm not and instead he is getting these things done. I asked him if there is a specific example he can give me and he said no, you are right, I need to think of one. I know for a fact that the areas he is getting involved are beyond my job and expertise.
He has just been promoted to this role and is overstretched because he says yes to everything and very stressed. He also keeps dropping the ball because he is overcommitted and people aren't getting what they are expecting from him. So it felt like he is looking for a scapegoat for the terrible situation he dragged himself into.
We closed the conversation amicably and he said his comment is circumstantial than a performance feedback to me.
AIBU to be get irritated by this. I do believe he is a good person with good intentions and he did a lot to make my life easier when DS was ill but his comment made me nervous and the fact that he can't give an example feels a bit flippant and sloppy. I have really bad work experiences in my past with bullying, toxic comments, scapegoating etc and find this triggering (I know my problem).