To find solo parenting easier?

[5fishfingers]

I'm not saying i know what it's like to be a single mum - as DH is only going off for set amount of times - but he's had a lot to go to recently (bereavements, stag dos, holiday with his mum, work). I am on day 6 right now and loving life.

I have two kids - one is pre-school, one year one. And stuff goes wrong (esp cos one is SEN) - but I feel free. I just handle stuff. I am finding things so much easier, less stress, less negotiation. I can organise stuff each day and i love having evenings to myself.

He's not an awful man - but he just makes everything a bit difficult. I always have to consider him. Maybe I'm just not a team player. I find working in teams at work difficult too! I just find it so much simpler when I can respond to things by myself.

Does anyone else relate? Is it selfish to leave someone on this basis? Do people believe that some people just aren't meant to be in relationships?

On the fence. I haven't had a night away from DCs in four years, lost most of my friends. EX sees them but not overnight so never have the time off. As others said, sickness is really hard. I also disagree it's easier making decisions etc. - that only applies if your ex doesn't want involvement. If they're still involved, they have every right to still input on important decisions, be informed about their lives and I still find myself spending a lot of time trying to avoid fights over our parenting styles not lining up.

It's a freedom l never tasted before and no way l would give it up.
I love that l am in sole control, l make all my own decisions, l solve all my own problems. I am accountable to no one, l rely entirely on myself.
I'm not going to be stuck with someone who gets on my nerves in retirement, l work alongside women who only work because their husband's have retired early and drive them mad. One pretends she works later, but pulls up on the side of a road and reads her book for an hour. What life is that?
I don't have a tv, the house is so quiet and peaceful. I can potter in my garden until dusk, no witterling "what are we going to have for tea?" Not having their boring friends/ family around, not having to show interest in things that don't interest me.
Not having to deal with all their problematic issues, or being burdened with their moods. Not feeling responsible for them. I can lay in the bath for hours.
I walk around my lovely home, with my many cats all asleep in their beds and Thank God for this beautiful peaceful solitude.
I shake my head in despair at some of the posts on here,.women complaining they are on their own and expect a man to solve all their problems when in fact most men only add to them.

@Welcometothehumanrace yes I can see that. I would like to be fully independent but I realise the reality will always be having to compromise/debate every single thing to do with the kids but with somewhere despises me because I left him.

@TheBrightestStarInTheSky sounds utter bliss. But not possible as H would remain v much in my life for next 10 yrs at least due to age of kids. He argues about what shoes they should be wearing now, that shit will continue. I 100% agree about retirement though. The idea of having to listen to him talk about roadworks and interest rates until I die is horrendous.