relship is not in a great place, I don’t feel very cared for, dh never really tries to get it right with presents for me and he says he doesn’t really want anything, and he hates shopping so it’s hard to think of what he would love. But when I look on threads for present ideas people seem to go to enormous lengths to arrange stuff. I just don’t think my h will appreciate it and I am really tired of organising stuff in the family. He has had a family do that I cooked all the food for and he is having another special small party then he wants a bigger party for all friends later in the year. So is it ok to get him a few smaller things? I am not getting anything engraved or antique and not taking him away as it’s hard to arrange time off. Basically I’m struggling to get excited and I feel bad.