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To walk away from partner when he's rude

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Sicktodeathofhim · 05/08/2023 15:30

My partner can sometimes be quite frankly a rude twat when out in public.
Examples are waiting in a queue for ages if say someone at the front or the cashier serving them taking a while like talking or faffing around, he will sarcastically cross his arms and stand straight backed to hopefully try and rush them. Just last week we were waiting for changing rooms in a supermarket for him to try something on and there were mother and daughter taking up the only 2 cubicles, kept asking each others advice, he did the arm crossing , when I said something to him about it he said " well it might make them hurry up" I replied "no its just embarrassing " and walked away and browsed while he waited.
Recently when he gets snappy because he's got a new phone and can't remember passwords to log in to apps he's redownloaded, I'll say is it xxxxx or similar or any idea what you based the password around to try and help him I get " I don't know!" Really snappy back , I've started just going quiet at that point, he had a cold recently and I said blow your nose and get some olbas oil it will make you feel better " there's no point just to keep blowing it again and again! Snappy as fuck, I just upped and went to bed, I'd had cold too and trust me , keeping on blowing all that snot away was better than leaving it all in there!

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yellowsmileyface · 05/08/2023 15:48

I'd walk away, and keep walking, and not look back.

The arm crossing thing does sound embarrassing. If someone behind me in a queue was acting like that I'd probably just take even longer just to spite them.

He sounds generally rude and disrespectful.

10HailMarys · 05/08/2023 15:50

I’d find him insufferable

Sicktodeathofhim · 05/08/2023 16:01

There are many times when he is nothing like this but also many times when he is.
I inwardly cringe sometimes.

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Sicktodeathofhim · 05/08/2023 16:04

Travelling by plane is a nightmare, he has me practically running to the check in desks, despite being the 2/ 3 hours before flight, wants to be first in the queue to board, first to get off even telling me and nudging me to stand up on the plane on landing to get off first. As I've said MANY times, the plane won't take off any quicker, and we still have to wait for our bags, I don't see the point in rushing to get off and be sardined on the aisle of the fucking plane shoulder to shoulder with people!

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MrReflection · 05/08/2023 16:13

Has he always been like this?

Us men can be annoying at times as we have a habit of bottling issues up and it generally comes out negatively in our behaviour. I've been guilty of that before, although in my case I become more introvert than openly aggressive or rude to people.

I'll await the backlash to that post.....!

Sicktodeathofhim · 05/08/2023 16:36

MrReflection · 05/08/2023 16:13

Has he always been like this?

Us men can be annoying at times as we have a habit of bottling issues up and it generally comes out negatively in our behaviour. I've been guilty of that before, although in my case I become more introvert than openly aggressive or rude to people.

I'll await the backlash to that post.....!

Pretty much tbh, sometimes he's OK in public, sometimes to be frank a cunt

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neilyoungismyhero · 05/08/2023 16:41

Yes I've got one of those- he's worse now he's older. It's mortifying and one of these days he's going to get his head punched in. He often gets into people's spaces and enunciates very slowly if they haven't understood him, he's quite frankly a bully and I don't go out much with him anymore.

MrReflection · 05/08/2023 16:51

Sicktodeathofhim · 05/08/2023 16:36

Pretty much tbh, sometimes he's OK in public, sometimes to be frank a cunt

There, in that single sentence, you have your answer. When is he nice?

We're all human and have our feeling "off" moments, but when it becomes ingrained behaviour, it ain't gonna change. My view is to what extent you want (or can) put up with it.

I like your frankness, by the way.

Sicktodeathofhim · 05/08/2023 18:18

The difference to now and 20 years ago is I'm not scared to walk away and leave him in a shop if he embarrasses me

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cushioncovers · 05/08/2023 18:20

He won't get any better. You just got to decide wether you can tolerate it for another 20 years.

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