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to be irritated by my friend..

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Chequers · 27/02/2008 16:09

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Chequers · 27/02/2008 16:11

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Tommy · 27/02/2008 16:13

she probably ust doesn't undestand how you can do a job which is not rewarding. My SIL doesn't understand why I am a SAHM or why my friend works part time when she could work full time

Divastrop · 27/02/2008 16:13

YANBU.sounds like you have the perfect job for you at this time in your life.if she has no children i suppose she finds it hard to understand why somebody would stay in a 'boring' job if they could get something more challenging.just tell her to butt out

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Chequers · 27/02/2008 16:15

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Kewcumber · 27/02/2008 16:15

I have a few old friends from the days when I had a whizzy job who thought I was bonkers when I took the job I now have (lower pay, part-time, less stress, more flexible).

If you have explained to her that the job may not be the most exciting one but it suits you then I think hwen she suggests it again then I would turn it into a question.

"why do you keep advising me about changing jobs when I have told you I'm happy with this one. Do you have a problme with my job?"

A question to her will flush out what her real issue is (if she has one) and will change the cycle of her telling you and not listening to the answer.

Tommy · 27/02/2008 16:15

perhaps you need to jokily say "Are trying to find me a new job again?" when she starts and laugh it off - she may get the message!

Twiglett · 27/02/2008 16:17

repeat after me chequers

"Fuck off will you?"

got that?

good

Kewcumber · 27/02/2008 16:17

I always say to people that no job is perfect - too many hours, not nice people, too inflexible, not enough pay, not enough challenge. COuld do on forver... but that this job is the best combination for me just now.

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Chequers · 27/02/2008 16:17

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Twiglett · 27/02/2008 16:17

what do you do?

could I do it?

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Chequers · 27/02/2008 16:18

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Chequers · 27/02/2008 16:19

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RedJools · 27/02/2008 16:21

tell her you have a different job- it's called parenting, and it is the most fulfilling and rewarding job in the world! tell her she should try it!

Kewcumber · 27/02/2008 16:21

Chequers 10 years ago I would rather have poked pins in my eyes than do my job. People used to do a virtual double take when I told then what my job was (in my industry and at my age not general people wadnering off the street .

Now I have to explain who the company is I work for and what we do and what my job is and I never get to travel and my whole department has a budget the size of my travel budget then... but importantly ... I work 4 days and leave at 5 to pick up DS. Working until 5pm would have been considered part time in the olden days...

Kewcumber · 27/02/2008 16:22

my plans for world domination can wait until DS starts schoool...

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Chequers · 27/02/2008 16:24

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Kewcumber · 27/02/2008 16:27

it is - I took it knowing I was planning DS so it made perfect sense to me but I know a lot of people were very shocked. I think they thought I was having some kind of breakdown . Actually I think in the world of advertising that would have been more acceptable

Your friend put on FB that she was pissed off about your pregnancy in a nice way or a narky way?

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Chequers · 27/02/2008 16:31

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Chequers · 27/02/2008 16:32

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Chequers · 27/02/2008 16:33

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Kewcumber · 27/02/2008 16:42

it sounds like your life has moved in such a differnt way to hers. My experience is that I only stayed friends with those who didn't have childrne if they were really good friends. She doesn't sound like that - I think you will drift apart - don't worry about her.

WallOfSilence · 27/02/2008 16:43

She sounds like a knob.

A jealous one at that.

Her loss!!

JoshandJamie · 27/02/2008 16:46

sounds as though she feels a bit left out - does she have a boyfriend/partner/husband? Maybe what she really wants is what you have, but doesn't, so she tries to make herself feel better by getting at you about your job. If that makes sense

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Chequers · 27/02/2008 16:50

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