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Do you cover kids' faces on fb?

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JustBanPlasticAndSubsidiseTheTrainsAlready · 04/08/2023 14:46

I've got about 75 fb friends so not many.

A friend of mine always covers or blurs kids' faces on photos she puts on fb. She has about 200 friends.

I just wondered what the consensus is - YABU - yes I also cover my kid's face
YANBU - no I don't.

I don't cover my kids' faces, because I consider that anyone on fb I don't trust with an image of my kid should not be a fb friend.

To give a full picture, my friend is happy to whatsapp a pic of her kids to me, without the blur.

Am I looking at it wrong? Just curious.

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HRTQueen · 04/08/2023 16:21

No I don’t put ds on any social media and never have

and would never trust fb private settings one they change them often and secondly there is information all over the internet how to hack into fb accounts

Ladyoftheknight · 04/08/2023 16:23

I don't post my children anywhere, and no one has permission to do so either. But if I did, I'd blur their faces. I have friends who post photos of their children in the bath online. I care for my kids' safety!

CFornot · 04/08/2023 16:24

I don’t put photos of my children on Facebook.

Hihihihihihihihihi · 04/08/2023 16:25

I don't post pictures of DD online at all

eatdrinkandbemerry · 04/08/2023 16:26

I don't hide my own kids faces but I do if their friends are in the pictures 🤷‍♀️.
My settings are very private though and my friends list is purposefully small so I'm not worried.

Soubriquet · 04/08/2023 16:28

I don’t because I don’t need to hide mine from anything

OrwellianTimes · 04/08/2023 16:28

ShinyBandana · 04/08/2023 14:49

I blur/cover the faces of other kids (not my own) if I don’t have express permission from a parent to show the face

Same unless it’s a close friend who shares their kids on Fb lots

Brokendaughter · 04/08/2023 16:30

I don't put photos of anyone on any site.

Have you seen what can be made with a picture of your face, or your childs face nowadays?

TheCyclingGorilla · 04/08/2023 16:33

I don't use fb anymore but when I did DD was a baby and it was an easy way to share pics with friends & family. My account was private. Since I gave up Fb I've used IG but don't post DD's pic, she doesn't like it. She now has her own account so can post pics of herself if she wants, but it's a private account and it's rare she purs selfies on there.

Turfwars · 04/08/2023 16:34

I never put any other kids on FB, and rarely put my own on FB either.

Barrell · 04/08/2023 16:36

I don’t cover or blur DD’s face in FB photos but I only post ones that don’t show her close up - for example, one from behind with her heading down the beach. I don’t want anything more recognisable on social media, but appreciate everyone has a different approach.

I would never post a photograph of someone else’s child on social media, so understand why your friend might blur them out.

Moveoverdarlin · 04/08/2023 16:37

I don’t upload ANY pictures of my children full stop on to FB.

CurlewKate · 04/08/2023 18:15

Not of my own children, no. But other people's-yes.

Snowtrails · 04/08/2023 19:00

CurlewKate · 04/08/2023 18:15

Not of my own children, no. But other people's-yes.

You shouldn't post photos of other people's children without consent, sticker or no sticker .Please don't.

itsmyp4rty · 04/08/2023 19:08

I don't blur my child's face because anyone can see him any day of the week in the flesh. His face doesn't blur when he leaves the house. I have also posted loads of pics of friends children at birthday parties etc and no one has ever had a problem with it. It's only on MN that people seem to think faces should be blurred out. The only time I've seen it done on FB IRL was for a child being fostered.

Icycloud · 04/08/2023 19:10

I just don’t post them in the first place. I rarely post and when I do it’s not my every thought as some people seem to use Facebook as a journal.

DappledThings · 04/08/2023 19:13

I don't get it. If you don't want your kids on Facebook just don't put them on there. Putting them up there but then blurring their faces just seems pointless.

mogtheforg3tfulcat · 04/08/2023 19:16

I rarely post pictures of my DC online but if I ever do then it's usually pics of scenery/holidays etc where they're walking ahead and you can see silhouettes/backs of heads. I don't have that many FB friends but some of them are people from work etc that I don't know all that well. My sil is a chronic FB oversharer as well and we wanted to set the boundary of no identifiable pictures or else she would plaster them all over the internet. I'm not at all worried about them being kidnapped or pedos or any of the other stuff PPS have mentioned - I just hope that in a few years when they're old enough to have their own online presence they'll be thoughtful about what they post and how they present themselves. That will be so much harder to teach them if I don't share everything about them when they're little. I also don't want them to grow up and be embarrassed at having loads of their baby/toddler photos freely available for their friends to see.

Snowtrails · 04/08/2023 20:43

His face doesn't blur when he leaves the house. I have also posted loads of pics of friends children at birthday parties etc and no one has ever had a problem with it.

Did ask the parents first?

Turfwars · 09/08/2023 16:54

I think time will tell - particularly the people who make a living out of their kids on social media or you tube and share all and any personal data of the children with the aim of making money off them.

Those kids have had zero privacy as children. We are already seeing those children grow up and sue their parents.

YukoandHiro · 09/08/2023 16:55

I don't on FB or Insta because they're both private but I don't post their images on Twitter because it's so open

FergusSingsTheBIues · 09/08/2023 17:01

My children are entitled to a private life and to grow up unfettered by social media pressure. I haven’t posted any photo of them for nearly a decade, I’d say. And they know why…in case they get the hump and think I don’t care about them or whatever 🙄

SnackSizeRaisin · 09/08/2023 17:09

I don't put any pictures of my children online at all. I don't see the point of putting them on with faces covered. It's better for them no have no online presence at all until they are old enough to make an informed decision about it.

Facebook is not private no matter what settings you have. It's extremely easy to make a fake profile and befriend someone.

If you do put photos on it should be pictures that are fully public with children looking happy or neutral - not inside their home or when they are in hospital or crying or covered in food or along with a caption saying "my 8 year old still wets the bed " etc etc.

Even if not tagged it's easy enough to work out who they are if their parent has posted the picture.

It's primarily about privacy although safety could be an issue too - you just don't know. If you have 200 friends on Facebook it's not unlikely (statistically) that there will be a paedophile among them.

SallyWD · 09/08/2023 17:11

No but I don't put anyone else's children on Facebook. I very occasionally put my children on Facebook (like a family holiday snap) but I check with my children first. They often choose the photos I put up.

Oblomov23 · 09/08/2023 17:15

No. I don't have any reason to.

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