DH buying something different

[Lila83]

Hello

wondering if IABU or not…

for some reason whoever DH goes to supermarket and asks any requests he always comes back with something different for some reason and it’s kind of annoying. but soemtimes I don’t understand the reasons - soemtimes he just says “oh I thought you’d prefer this” and if I say “you know I’m not keen on that” he might say “I know I just thought you might fancy a change..” so what’s the point in asking me then?!
or he’ll ask me to choose dinner, and then come back with something totally different- again why ask me?!
so yesterday I asked if he could get the plain Kellogg’s wheat bites for our toddler and said it’s because they are low on sugar and our toddler likes plain (and gets enough sugar from fruit and we don’t deny at parties so it’s not like they are deprived).
DH came back with chocolate pillows?!!
why? I’d get it if our toddler wouldn’t eat enough, but our toddler is a good and healthy eater so I don’t know why DH always brings back the sugar filled and processed versions and they’ll he’ll say “but that’s what kids like”. But doesn’t he see our little one eating?!!
I think he goes by what his older kids like - but sometimes they even keep asking him not to get certain things ie jam - he always gets them seedless jam but they have preferred the ones with seeds for years and he’s seems to keep forgetting this lol thinking kids don’t like seeds. It’s not even like he eats the stuff he’s buying.l so I don’t get it.

anyway like I say I’m not depriving, but why introduce less healthy versions when my toddler is fine to eat the regular versions. This happens quite often and I find it more annoying where my toddler is concerned. :/

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Congratulations on having my D'H. It's one of the many reasons I want to leave the marriage as this kind of attitude starts filtering into all areas of your life. It's a FU to anything you dare ask him to do. I see he's already starting on the "poor little me" when you pulled him up on it. This is probably why his Ex got rid of him.

It's deliberate 'whatever I do is wrong' making it about poor him. It's not difficult buying what's on a list.

If he continues just play him at his own game. If you do the cooking then make food he doesn't like and say 'I thought you'd like a change', be incompetent around anything to do with his stuff. He'll get the message.

Sounds like you make his packed lunch? Really, is he a child?

I am not sure if its incompetence in this case, more just simple male arrogance because he thinks he knows what you want, better than you do

My DH did the same thing but it got to a ridiculous point where I would ask for chocolate or biscuits and he would come back with fruit! We had a massive argument which fortunately finally sorted this once and for all - if I ask for something he gets it!

@BabyTa - did he ever admit as to why he did it?