To be freaking out after TTC

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Posting here for traffic really. Probably TMI. But. DH and I decided to TTC and this is the first month we're trying. It's been a bit awkward. But we have had unprotected sex a couple of times, including last night.

Today, I'm freaking out about it. I keep thinking should I get the morning after pill.

Not 100% sure why. This is something I really want, or I thought I did. AIBU to be freaked out? Were you when you were TTC? I know it's not even that likely to happen the first month. Not sure if it's normal to be panicked about it, I have been feeling really anxious this week in general as well to be fair, or if it means I should go and get the MAP and try and figure out why I feel this way. But I also don't want to waste the opportunity for something I want so much. I'm just going round in circles of worry about it! Please help me 😂

Can i ask why its been awkward?

It's normal! Expect this reaction again when you get a BFP too.

Before, having a baby was just theoretical, but having unprotected sex may have turned it into reality. With that action, you may just have made a lifelong commitment to being a parent - that's huge, so of course it's unnerving. Do explore whether this is genuinely a change of heart for you, but I'd interpret it as you recognising the responsibility you're taking on instead (and the fact that you're reacting that way bodes well for you being a good parent - just think how many people underestimate the enormity of what they're signing up for!)

Nothing awful @justpushingthrough I think he's just felt the pressure a little bit! Not from me, I might add, but just the situation in general.

Thank you @LittleRedYoshi that's very reassuring to read! I think I've calmed down a bit now 😄

Totally normal. I was TTC for 4 months the. As soon as I got pregnant I panicked so much I booked an abortion (didn’t do it in the end). Exactly the same happened for baby number 2.

Oh I’ve been there. The first time we had unprotected sex I seriously considered the morning after pill! It was a panic like “omg am I ready for this?!” As it happened I got pregnant that first month and now have the greatest little boy, so I’m glad I didn’t!

But that panic at the beginning, and then at moments throughout the pregnancy, is completely normal!

I think it's just because it's so drummed into us growing up that unprotected sex = bad, so it feels weird when you are actually 'allowed' to do it with no contraception while TTC.

ah yes I totally get you then!!!!!

For our 3rd, my DP felt pressured mainly cos i was tracking and was like right now please , we joke about it now but at the time i was being a bit of a dick,

I was like this and freaked out at a positive test, thought I wasn’t ready and terminated. We are TTC again soon now we have ticked a few more things off the list but I do regret my knee jerk decision, I was just worried as a PP mentions because it’s a massive change. It’s so common to be having second thoughts. Maybe write yourself a list of the reasons now is a good time, to mitigate these feelings?