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To share a bed with ds12?

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fusspot23 · 04/08/2023 09:46

Ds and I are going away for a night just the two of us. I'm looking at booking a travelodge and noticed that if I select an adult and a child it provides us with a family room which is considerably more expensive than a double room. For one night would it be acceptable for us to share a bed? Would the hotel allow me to book it as two adults even though it's really an adult an a child? I feel like I once heard a story where a single dad and his daughter were turned away in a similar situation.

Ds totally happy to share by the way, he still occasionally comes and gets in bed with me in a morning anyway. Although I feel these days might be numbered :-(

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Womblegreen · 04/08/2023 09:49

You both agree it’s fine. I’d go ahead with the double rather than the family room. (Are there no twins available?)

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fusspot23 · 04/08/2023 09:51

Womblegreen · 04/08/2023 09:49

You both agree it’s fine. I’d go ahead with the double rather than the family room. (Are there no twins available?)

No just a family room with two double beds which isn't necessary for just the two of us.

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stayclosetoyourself · 04/08/2023 10:08

I'd go for a twin or the two doubles but at the same time think it's ok as such.

randomchap · 04/08/2023 10:09

Is he genuinely happy to share, or is he just telling you what you want to hear?

He's either started puberty or very close to it. I think he should have his own bed

MrsSkylerWhite · 04/08/2023 10:11

randomchap · Today 10:09
Is he genuinely happy to share, or is he just telling you what you want to hear?

He's either started puberty or very close to it. I think he should have his own bed”

What an odd response. OP, they usually give the option of a twin room but if not, sharing at 12 (or any age, really) is fine.

Valhalla17 · 04/08/2023 10:13

It's fine, I do that with my ds all the time. He is also 12. I figure the period he wants to or is happy to do so won't last beyond 13 or 14...so I will make the most of it!

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fusspot23 · 04/08/2023 10:14

randomchap · 04/08/2023 10:09

Is he genuinely happy to share, or is he just telling you what you want to hear?

He's either started puberty or very close to it. I think he should have his own bed

If he genuinely had a problem with it then I don't think he'd be so comfortable being in my bed at home. Hes showing signs of being close to puberty but not there yet.

I'm more concerned about whether the hotel will allow it or insist on having a family room. I don't want to be in a position of getting turned away when we arrive. But I can't find anything on their website to suggest if it's allowed or not.

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Didiplanthis · 04/08/2023 10:15

I still can't get DS 11 (Asd) OUT of my bed most nights.. if I booked a family room he'd be in mine anyway... so I see no issue with it !!

randomchap · 04/08/2023 10:17

If he's happy sharing at home then not a problem in a hotel. Thanks for clarifying.

NewNovember · 04/08/2023 10:18

The rooms are exactly the same price you must be doing something wrong with the booking.

NewNovember · 04/08/2023 10:20

Also Travelodge's don't t have two doubles you must be looking at a different hotel. Why don't t you book a Travelodge or a premier inn.

Sirzy · 04/08/2023 10:21

Even when I book a room with a separate bed Ds (13) seems to decide to stay in the main bed with me anyway!

Hankunamatata · 04/08/2023 10:25

Fine. Ds12 would happily share with me, he loves a cuddle still

seratoninmoonbeams · 04/08/2023 10:25

I think it's ok but surely you just book a twin?

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fusspot23 · 04/08/2023 10:30

seratoninmoonbeams · 04/08/2023 10:25

I think it's ok but surely you just book a twin?

For the dates I've entered it's only bringing up the option of a small family room which is a double and a pull out double. No twins. I guess they don't have any for this date. The family room is 184 and the standard double is 134.

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fusspot23 · 04/08/2023 10:31

NewNovember · 04/08/2023 10:20

Also Travelodge's don't t have two doubles you must be looking at a different hotel. Why don't t you book a Travelodge or a premier inn.

It's a double and a pull out bed (which looks like a double from the photo)

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ManateeFair · 04/08/2023 10:31

I'm amazed that there are so many 12 year old boys who are still happy to share a bed with their mum, but if your son's fine with it then I can't see that it would be a problem.

You can get twin rooms for the same price as a double, though.

itsmyp4rty · 04/08/2023 10:33

Leave him elsewhere while you check in and meet him after - that's what we did when ds was 16 and we still wanted a family room with Premier Inn.

itsmyp4rty · 04/08/2023 10:34

ManateeFair · 04/08/2023 10:31

I'm amazed that there are so many 12 year old boys who are still happy to share a bed with their mum, but if your son's fine with it then I can't see that it would be a problem.

You can get twin rooms for the same price as a double, though.

Why are you amazed? Just because yours wasn't?

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fusspot23 · 04/08/2023 10:35

ManateeFair · 04/08/2023 10:31

I'm amazed that there are so many 12 year old boys who are still happy to share a bed with their mum, but if your son's fine with it then I can't see that it would be a problem.

You can get twin rooms for the same price as a double, though.

Well, be amazed I guess. I'm in no rush for him to grow up. I'd share a bed with my mum even at 37 if it meant I could save £50!

There are no twins available otherwise I'd clearly choose that option.

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BogRollBOGOF · 04/08/2023 10:43

Both my 10 or 12yo would be fine with that.

They still occasionally sneak into my room in the night if they want extra warmth, cosiness or had a bad dream.

If we're on a short camp, we're all lined up on the ground on our mats anyway. That wouldn't be treated as odd.

SamW98 · 04/08/2023 10:48

I went to Greece on holiday when my DS was 13 and requested a twin room. When we arrived - quite late in evening after a flight delay - they’re given us a double bed. I went straight down to ask them to change us but they had nothing else available for 4 days.

We just slept on top of bed and it was fine. Not ideal but no big deal.

Do they not do the double rooms whetr you can request the sofa bed is made up? Or is that only the family rooms?

TimeIhadaNameChange · 04/08/2023 10:58

My 3 yo dd and I co-sleep, so I just book us as two adults and it's fine. Once I was asked if I wanted a cot but they don't care otherwise. Go for it.

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fusspot23 · 04/08/2023 11:49

TimeIhadaNameChange · 04/08/2023 10:58

My 3 yo dd and I co-sleep, so I just book us as two adults and it's fine. Once I was asked if I wanted a cot but they don't care otherwise. Go for it.

If it were a younger child I wouldn't think twice about it. I just don't know if it would be frowned upon due to his age. Or maybe hotel businesses don't care or even notice it.

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