I feel like this is promoted by Daily Mail and I thought the male gaze and female gaze meant something else, like male taste in women rather than men staring creepily.
Anyway, I thought Simon Mills was mansplaining too much and his point on women being just as pervy and vocal in objectifying men is weak because a. it's final payback giving men a taste of their own medicine and b. because women can't rape men so it's not the same thing because there is no physical threat. This is why reporting stare crimes is unfortunately needed because those creepy stares can escalate. I would say that the women in the office should have been reported the same if the sexes were reversed because it's unprofessional.
His example about a woman telling him to stop staring when he was squinting to read the tube map behind her shows how very little men understand women's experience of harassment. If I were trying to read something behind a person who seemed to be getting self conscious possibly thinking I'm staring at them I would back off, but this entitled man just kept going squinting as if to study her. Well done on that woman for calling him out. It's also a standard rebuff to say oh I wasn't looking at you so who knows if this is genuine and even if it were doubtless he had stared at women before. There is a tiktok filter showing how you think you're staring vs how you actually look. It's a funny filter but my point is that we can think we come across as relaxed or non threatening but if other people, let alone many people, have told you it's threatening you need to listen. He chooses defensiveness and dismissal, instead which is typical of this arrogant league of men.
The actress thing wearing a bustier and then complaining that he is looking at her cleavage, I feel that when you wear clothes that accentuate your sexuality, it's unfair to then complain you're being objectified when you are serving them on a plate for all to see. I don't believe you can wear whatever you like without consequences, doesn't mean I agree with leering or assault as a justification, it just means we live in the real world. It's totally confusing to dress skimpy and then take issue with your body being stared at. Clothes send a message.
I don't agree with him that men like any woman, they evidently check out certain types far more than others particularly if he isn't desperate or drunk. I think porn and social media has made men more picky about looks and think they are entitled to a better looking woman. They also tend to overestimate their attractiveness whereas women tend to underestimate.
I have to agree with Amanda Platell, I personally as a heterosexual woman do judge men on their looks when I first meet them I run a quick assessment if I sexually fancy them and if I fancy him physically then I am far more forgiving and he is far more funny and interesting than an unattractive man to a certain extent.
Long term I would need more personal qualities but good looking men absolutely go further with women, friendships and career. Good looks open doors.
I'm not a fan of David B at all and I find his premise that a man can be lusting over your tits while also admiring your brains is totally disingenuous. When he is checking out your body I doubt he is thinking of your personality. Unattractive women will tell you how they are friendzoned or not asked out or have abuse shouted out at them for daring to be seen out. If men in general cared about personality and intelligence then they would date and idolise a whole different league of women. Instead, look who they worship and run after. The instagram models for example may well be intelligent but they never show that side of themselves and all their male followers are doubtfully interested in their thoughts, they just care about their arses.
Sorry that was so long. I could talk so much more about this but I'd better stop.