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Friends children leaving home advice

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Sandals94 · 03/08/2023 22:48

My friend's children in their 20's recently left home. Being a Mum is all she's known for 25 years and she's feeling lost and depressed as they're busy leading their own lives now.
I get the impression her DH isn't the most adventurous, I think the kids have kept her busy over the years and I know she enjoys travelling and just doing 'stuff' whereas all her DH would want to do is visit the local once a week and refuses point blank to go on holiday for more than 1 week anywhere! She would like to go further afield but 1 week isn't really worth the hassle. I think she fears for the future now its just the 2 of them. She loves him, but they are very different people and without the distraction of the kids it's daunting for her. She has friends etc, but I fear for the marriage. I wonder how many others find themselves just looking at each other as the kids leave and think "what now"?

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StillPerplexed · 03/08/2023 23:09

I know some people who holiday with close friends even if their partners aren't up to it. Maybe a possibility?

Totaly · 03/08/2023 23:13

mine are late teens early 29’s and they have been living separate lives, they go out with friends, work and see partners etc.

For the last few years I have been away with friends away with DH (1 week) and joining clubs that I enjoy. Not sure why your firmed hasn’t been stepping back and getting her life back I’ve the last few years

And to be honest I’m not sure why you fear for her marriage? Either it survives or or doesn’t. You worrying about it isn’t going to change the outcome.

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