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To think we won’t make it to the wedding?

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Thehonestbadger · 03/08/2023 19:42

I’m freaking out and feeling sorry for myself.

Im going to preface this by saying in the last 4 years I have had ONE nice event I’ve gone to. That’s it, that’s all. No hobbies, no groups, no social life, hubby works all the time and we have two toddlers one of whom is significantly disabled (no respite or SS support until he’s school age already gone down that route)

Anyway, I’m my only siblings wedding at the weekend. Been planned for 2 years. It’s not super close or convenient for us but so important to me to be there so have made an effort to plan/prep. All of which was supposed to be done this week, asked DH to take Friday off holiday too so I could really enjoy it. He didn’t because he said the kids were in nursery, fair enough.

Anyway, I was unwell the first part of the week with labarinthitis and Last night DD was violently sick (stomach bugs seem to always take our whole house down) she’s 2 and basically made of Velcro right now so i’m dreading I’ll get it and even if I don’t there is SO MUCH that needs done over the next 24 hours to get us there and without nursery I have zero chance 🤷‍♀️

I know it’s nobody’s fault but I have had a HARD 4 years and have nothing enjoyable or for myself ever, was it too much to ask to just have a nice wedding without this hanging over me?

I’m a huge emetophobe (failed CBT to help) so it’s really really bothering me.
I feel a bit like it always sodding happens to me, others must think that too as several have said it today ‘poor you this always happens to you doesn’t it’ kinda comments

OP posts:
Georgig · 03/08/2023 19:48

If the kids are sick, go on your own and leave them with dh. I agree, it's important youre at the wedding!

BeardieWeirdie · 03/08/2023 19:53

You can’t take a child with a stomach bug and infect everyone there. Be scrupulous about washing and go without your husband and children. You can’t not go just because your husband likes to think childcare is all on you.

LifeExperience · 03/08/2023 19:56

Leave the children with dh and go enjoy yourself.

Russooooo · 03/08/2023 20:06

It’s your sibling’s wedding.

If ‘D’H hasn’t already called work to say he won’t be in tomorrow, packed you a bag and ushered you out of the door to reduce the choice of catching it, he really doesn’t deserve the ‘D’.

Go. To. The. Wedding.

DH will cope.

HalloumiLuvver · 03/08/2023 23:01

Russooooo · 03/08/2023 20:06

It’s your sibling’s wedding.

If ‘D’H hasn’t already called work to say he won’t be in tomorrow, packed you a bag and ushered you out of the door to reduce the choice of catching it, he really doesn’t deserve the ‘D’.

Go. To. The. Wedding.

DH will cope.

I totally agree with this. Your DH needs to step up and take over at home and let YOU go to the wedding. Or he's not a decent man.

nocoolnamesleft · 03/08/2023 23:04

Yep, time for your "D"H to step up.

Plilywhite · 03/08/2023 23:21

This happened to us last year. I stayed at home with the kids (we all had stomach bug except DH). It was hell being so sick trying to look after sick kids but I wouldn’t have wanted him to miss his siblings wedding. Bridesmaids dresses still in wardrobe unworn!

clpsmum · 03/08/2023 23:24

Russooooo · 03/08/2023 20:06

It’s your sibling’s wedding.

If ‘D’H hasn’t already called work to say he won’t be in tomorrow, packed you a bag and ushered you out of the door to reduce the choice of catching it, he really doesn’t deserve the ‘D’.

Go. To. The. Wedding.

DH will cope.

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