Can I have my name in my second daughters name but not my first?

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Am I being unreasonable to have my name as my second daughters middle name.
My first daughter has both mine and my husbands late nans names as middle names. Choosing middle names this time around for our second daughter is so difficult we want something meaningful but my name is the only we love and it flows nicely! Will my first daughter be jealous when she’s older? Or am I overthinking the whole thing 🤣

I think she'd probably be the opposite of jealous, if my experience of teenage girls is anything to go by!

I think it’s fine, my sister has our mums name as her middle name where as I’ve just got a middle name my parents liked and has no connection to anyone.

can’t say that it’s ever bothered me or if I’ve even ever questioned it to be honest. Go for what you like.

Of course you can. Loads of kids have a parent's name as their middle name, nobody expects every sibling to have the same!

It's not an AIBU.

My DP's brother has their dad's name as his middle name and DP's sister has their mum's name as her middle name. DP (the middle child) doesn't have any middle names but he isn't particularly bothered about it.

I doubt she'd care less, tbh.

My DB has my dad's middle name as his; I didn't get a middle name at all. Never occurred to me to feel hard done by!

I have my Mum's middle name as my middle name, and my sister I think has my Nana's. I'm the eldest, but equally if I had my Nana's and my sister my mum's it wouldn't be something to be upset over, and honestly I have never really given it much thought.

Both names have been chosen with care and meaning. You chose to honour your grandparents with your eldest, and now your second is receiving a different honour, through you sharing your name with her.

If your eldest (or youngest) feels somewhat short-changed by their name when they're older, there's probably feeling of unfairness than just the name.

Of course, one might notice the difference and express that they wish they'd had the others, where you'd just confirm to that child that they too had their name chosen with love and thought. I can't see it being a big deal, like noticing one of them had a rabbit toy as a baby and the other a bear.

Thank you so much for the effort that went into this reply i really appreciate it and it’s made me look at things in totally a different way where actually we care that much and their names have been thought with so much love I should hope there’s never any feeling of unfairness or jealousy! Thanks again x