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To feel forgotten about?

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Hipp0campus · 02/08/2023 22:23

Turning 30 on the weekend.
Grandparents looking after DC so we have a rare (ti's once a year if lucky) child free night.
My parents visited last year on the day and didn't bring a card nor reference the birthday until we were saying goodbyes.
Didn't hear anything from all 4 siblings.

Nothing has arrived in the post yet. I know its only midweek but I can't help bit think everyone's forgotten me again.
Just a card or a phone call would be nice.

Cherry on the cake, we're skint as mints and eating out of community pantrys/food banks atm so will be spending the night doing sweet FA. Can't even afford to stretch to a birthday cake.

Sorry, didn't mean to pity party this just needed to rant.

YABU they're not arseholes there's still time

YANBU forgotten again by the looks of it.

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Keyworks · 02/08/2023 22:33

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StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 02/08/2023 22:35

Oh mate, that's pretty rubbish. HAPPY BIRTHDAY 🥳

If it helps my Dad never remembered my birthday or come to think of it my name once I'd left for uni.

Enjoy the peace, watch something nice or listen to an adult podcast. X

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Hipp0campus · 02/08/2023 22:35

That's the thing, I never forget birthdays or mothers day ect.
Wouldn't know how to hint without sounding grabby/clearly referring to previous years forgetting

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greenthumb13 · 02/08/2023 22:43

YANBU but if you want to see them maybe see if they can bring over drinks for your bday? May have to take some reminding on your part (crap but depends on what you want to do). I had to organize a few of my own parties w my sisters.

thelast5years · 02/08/2023 23:21

Hipp0campus · 02/08/2023 22:35

That's the thing, I never forget birthdays or mothers day ect.
Wouldn't know how to hint without sounding grabby/clearly referring to previous years forgetting

That's awful. Sorry for the tough time you're having. If no one remembered my birthday I wouldn't be acknowledging theirs.

slipperypenguin · 02/08/2023 23:23

Hipp0campus · 02/08/2023 22:35

That's the thing, I never forget birthdays or mothers day ect.
Wouldn't know how to hint without sounding grabby/clearly referring to previous years forgetting

Just drop into convo that it's great you are getting a break since it's a big birthday for you at the weekend....

Brainfogmcfogface · 02/08/2023 23:31

my family never bother with my birthday not since, we’ll ever really, even growing up I never had parties or was it really a knot round a few gifts in the morning, it was just another day, so I basically forget about them, I’ve not celebrated or had so much as a card in years, i genuinely forgot its bday most years and only a (usually late night) text from an old friend reminds me, it’s smarts a bit to be completely forgotten but as I took it off my socials I feel like it’s somewhat my decision so that takes the edge off a little. Not that I could celebrate I’m beyond poor so any money that I have would instantly go on something nice for my children.
But no, yanbu at all.

dancingdaisies · 02/08/2023 23:33

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nebulae · 02/08/2023 23:39

This thread makes me sad.

💐 for @Hipp0campus and @Brainfogmcfogface and anyone else who is forgotten about on their birthday.

MargaretThursday · 02/08/2023 23:41

Do you have family WhatsApp?

Try something like "I remember when 30 sounded so old, and now that's me!
Any suggestions for somewhere nice we could go for my birthday. Don't have spare cash atm, so needs to be cheap"

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 02/08/2023 23:43

Happy birthday OP

I don't understand though why you keep bothering with other people's birthdays etc? They clearly don't give a shit. Ans if they do, maybe they'll realise it goes both ways

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Hipp0campus · 12/08/2023 18:57

So a week after and 3 people acknowledged the birthday, DF, inlaws and best friends.

No gift or anything from partner of 8 years. Or mum. Or any of the 4 adult siblings.

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saltinesandcoffeecups · 12/08/2023 19:01

I can tell you what my mum did one year when her siblings and mum didn’t acknowledge her birthday… she read all the riot act. Weirdly they didn’t forget again.

Seriously, it’s clearly important to you. Let them know.

Happy Belated Birthday

Thestartofsomethinggood · 12/08/2023 19:09

They are all crap
Happy birthday
💐🎂💐

Jellytotsburnmytongue · 12/08/2023 19:15

You don't sound grabby @Hipp0campus it sounds like after everything you've been through lately having people treat you on your birthday would help things to feel much better, even if it's just for one day. There is nothing wrong with wanting people to celebrate your birthday.

It's my birthday this week, I know most people will forget and I won't get anything, but I've never celebrated birthdays so I don't mind. However I know other people do celebrate birthdays and it's a big deal.

I really hope that things turn around soon for you, and wish you best wishes for your birthday 🎂🎈 happy birthday @Hipp0campus x

Gymmum82 · 12/08/2023 19:20

I’m sorry. It hurts. My sibling didn’t acknowledge my 40th. I’ve sent nothing since and plan to ignore her 40th similarly. Might be petty but make no effort get no effort

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