AIBU to believe my husband thinks I am the most beautiful women in the world?

[wordorexcel]

I have been married for 20 years. I am 45. My husband has always told me that I am the most beautiful women in the world, and I genuinely believe him.

I know objectively I am not. I am average looking. But I do believe that to HIM I am the most beautiful women in the world.

Do you think he's just saying this to me, or do you think he really actually means it?

It really doesn't matter what we all think. It only matters what you think and you've said you believe him.

Hmmmm. My husband always me that I’m the most beautiful woman in the world, so clearly one of them is lying 😄

Joking aside, I’m sure your husband means it. I think my husband is the most staggeringly attractive man on earth after over 30 years together so I believe what my husband says to me and you should believe yours!

Doesn't matter.

I tell DD she is the best kid in the world. She says all mums think that. I tell her one of us is right and it's me.

Be happy. It's a wonderful thing.

Why does it matter if we think he's being truthful or not. If you're happy to believe that he really feels that way then just do that.

Also when he looks at you he can see things we can’t possibly know - like for instance your resilience, the way you care for people, how you both dealt with that traumatic issue together, the time you laughed sat on a bench on a hill at twilight.

Your husband loves you and all your beauty which is not simply a physical appearance.

You are the person he finds most beautiful. Simple.

We could dig into all the ways that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and that people can be sexy and not beautiful or beautiful but not sexy or you can be plain and beautiful or wildly into heavy makeup and be magnificent or an umpalumpa.

His version of beautiful is you. Nice and easy.

My DH says the same to me

To him you're and everyone's husband/partner should think this about their other half

My husband thinks I am a goddess made flesh and sent to earth. I'm not, but he makes me feel like the most beautiful and adored person in the world.

I hope i properly return that to him.

That's just how it should be. Imho.

It's important to him that you should hear nice things about yourself from his lips. That's something to treasure and enjoy.

Yeah it's all the deep stuff that makes us beautiful isn't it?? The traumas and the strength. The trouble is my dh has absolutely terrible taste in practically everything, so it makes me smile when he thinks I'm beautiful.

This.

The biggest compliment my husband has ever paid me is “you look nice” so I would say to gratefully receive whatever your DH says!

I once asked DH what qualities he loved about me and he ummed and ahhhed a bit then said “you’re very diligent”. No, I’ve no idea either.

My DH says the same to me. I think he perhaps needs stronger specs, lol. On holiday recently a beautiful tall slender woman of about 25 swept past in a gorgeous flowy silk dress, hair blowing in the breeze, and I sighed "Oh, how I wish I looked like that", and he said "But that's how I see you. You're my beautiful girl". I am in my 50s and 4 stone overweight!

Be warned, someone will be along shortly to tell you he's overegging the pudding because he is having an affair/ doesn't care about you. Some people on Mumsnet have to tear down a long term happy relationship.

Well he is married to you so I guess he means it? Why do you think he doesn’t?

I'm sure he does mean it. Objectively, while I'm sure you're gorgeous, perhaps you might not beat Margot Robbie in a beauty contest - but your husband sees not only your looks but also all the other things he loves about you. I'm sure that to him, you are absolutely his definition of the most beautiful woman in the world.

My DP, objectively, is not 'handsome' or 'good-looking' in the classic sense, but to me he's absolutely perfect and there is no face I'd rather look at than his.

If you like him saying it and he likes saying it then all good. I'd imagine he means it and it is romantic and nice in the context of your relationship.

I think I would cringe a bit if DH said it to me, because of course I am NOT the most attractive woman in the world and I am a bit of a realist so romantic exaggerations like that aren't really what floats my boat. But that's my personality and my relationship.

Why are you asking MN what your husband actually thinks? How can we possibly know?

I would take it to mean that he loves, admires and cherishes you. just be happy with what he says. Don't over analyse it.

Be warned, someone will be along shortly to tell you he's overegging the pudding because he is having an affair/ doesn't care about you. Some people on Mumsnet have to tear down a long term happy relationship.

LOL - exactly this. The same people who think that if someone posts a nice holiday picture on Facebook, that must mean the family actually hate each other and they're all having a shit time.

Hi @wordorexcel this is so sweet ❤ i think he actually means it xx

Well, that's the sort of thing that a loving husband says. My DH used to say the same, but the mirror told me I wasn't lol 😉

Mine says he would find me sexy in a bin liner. So I would listen and love the fact u have someone who loves u that much

My exH said that to me, but it couldn't have been true because he tried to rearrange my face.

That “diligent” comment made me chuckle.
My old flatmate is madly in love and they’re a truly fab couple. He says she’s the only woman in the world for him. He says he loves her because she’s “practical”. 😆