And should put seeing his only gc before money???
My dad is Spanish. To cut a long story short, he walked out when I was 12 because he was bored of being a husband and father (he was 17 when he married my mum and they had me).
He met someone else in England (a lady from Bristol) and they moved back to Spain where up until very recently he had a very successful building business (he now works for a bigger company owed by an old friend).
He is not short of money, he and dsm have a pretty comfortable lifestyle and are careful with money.
OTOH my mum STRUGGLED to bring up me and my 2 brothers on benefits and a part time job. He contributed feck all to our upbringing apart from a bit of money at Christmas and birthdays.
We had an estranged relationship for a long time and eventually we made up when he married my dsm (who I get on well with). But my dad was so looking forward to the birth of my ds as he will be his first gc.
However he is coming over to see him for the first time next weekend. He originally said that he would come over end of January but then said he couldn't because dsm's sister and partner were coming over (the ones that seem to go over and see them every fecking month!!). Right fine, says I, when can you come?
We can't come until end of Feb because flights are cheapest then, Oh and I can only afford to take 1 day off work so we are coming on the Friday and going Sunday.
And the best thing of all? They are flying to Bristol. I LIVE IN FUCKING TEESSIDE YOU PILLOCK WHICH MEANS YOU ARE GOING TO SPEND MOST OF THE FRIDAY AND SUNDAY IN THE FUCKING HIRE CAR!!!!
They've done that because it is cheaper than flying to Teesside airport.
Sorry but that has soooooo pissed me off.
I really want to have a major go at him but I don't want to be any bad feeling when he visits, I want him to have fun with his new dgs. But I feel so hurt that he has put money before wanting to spend some time with me (his only daughter and only child who actually wants anything to do with him). We are planning to go over to Spain to visit and we are going to make it in June for about 2.5 weeks, as we want to visit the rest of my family). But it is so much easier for him to visit us due to the logistics or travelling with very young baby.
And I really think they could have taken the less cheaper option of flying to Teesside just as a one off!!
Well done if you got to the bottom of that essay!