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Aibu to give him another chance if and when...

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keeppouring · 01/08/2023 11:29

I'll keep it brief and factual so as to try to keep my overthinking at bay and get an honest answer from you .
I let a man in early June.
We dated for nearly two months.
He is warm, intelligent. Family oriented, kind and very affectionate. A normal man. But, My experience of ' normal' men in limited sadly.

We're both divorced, both early fifties.
We met by chance and his relationship had just ended. He ended it t for many reasons but felt guilt about doing so.
They had intended to live together and had future plans until he learned of lies
And deceit.
We had fun and that's all we both wanted as we are busy with work and children.

His ex began to ring and follow him , begging for another chance, using past arguments to plead her case so to speak.
It hecame abusive so he blocked her phone number. She continued to beg and plead on other platforms.
He started feeling awful. Talking about guilt and sadness and feeling like a terrible person for leaving her at her lowest point.

He was in no place for a relationship, nor was I and agreed that this was all wrong and I did t want to be his therapist. It was meant to be fun!

We chatted and agreed that we would leave things until things settled down perhaps in a few months.
He did not stop contact with his ex and continued to apologise and return her belongings and help her with stuff. I did not accept this ...

So , by mutual agreement we have no contact. He apologised profusely for this mess.
If and when this settles and he is over his guilt and despair, would I be mad to consider meeting him again?

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Highlyflavouredgravy · 01/08/2023 11:31

Yes

Steer clear
No good will come of it

KajsaKavat · 01/08/2023 11:31

It can take years to get over a relationship though, I wouldn’t wait around.

keeppouring · 01/08/2023 11:32

Thanks.
I'm not waiting for him but do feel conflicted about meeting him again.

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keeppouring · 01/08/2023 15:08

Hello again. I'm just wondering if anyone else had any thoughts on this . It's on my mind today and I'm trying to make sense of it all. Thank you.

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