To have almost zero online presence?

[ChronicallyUnhappy]

Just reading a similar thread to this and wanted to ask for my own situation

I’m 26, and aside from MN and LinkedIn (work account - no choice), I have no other social media accounts.

My reasoning is simple: I took a SM break mid last year for one week, and found I was so much happier without it all. So I deleted everything. I’m prone to OCD like tendencies (repeating things until it’s “just right”, excessive doubt, etc) and found most of those tendencies disappeared once I got rid of my social media accounts. I still do things like rereading emails or checking the doors, but that’s another issue.

Recently, I was chatting to my colleagues, who are a mix of my age, and older. They all agreed it was odd I didn’t have social media. Even the boys in the office said it was a red flag in terms of dating, to which I said “if a man is scared of me because I have no social media, he has bigger issues.”

I just didn’t think it would be such an odd thing to have very little SM. My colleagues were looking at me like I had 2 heads 😂😂😂

So MN, AIBU to steer clear from SM?

Good for you!

My social media is locked down and for most people I don't have a presence either. I would delete Facebook entirely if I could, but there are some people who only contact me through messenger so I can't.

It can be a red flag as people who cheat/sleep around tend to delete social media if they don't want their "main" relationship to be public knowledge.

I have social media but don't upload anything about my child, which people think is OTT of me. I'm just not comfortable with people I went to school with 10 years ago seeing my child basically grow up. I was once at a soft play and spotted a little girl and realised I knew so much about her when she didn't know me at all, and I barely even knew her mum. Yet I'd seen so many pictures of her, so I draw the line at putting my child online but happy to have sm for myself.

Of course not, SM isn't compulsory, if your colleagues think there's something wrong with that they clearly don't get out much

I'm very surprised that anyone would give it a second thought

I stopped using my old facebook about a year and a half ago – I have a basic one set up for professional groups, with no contacts on it.

I have instagram but to be honest find it a drain. They are all addictive and I find myself doom scrolling and wasting time.

I do feel less in touch with people now (esp compared to like 10 years ago when I was always on facebook and in touch with people I know from living all over) but ultimately don’t miss it.

When I do occasionally pop back on I notice that my mood instantly worsens.

I think of it as perfectly normal to have just two social media presences - MN and LinkedIn. It's double what I have.

The only thing i would find very mildly unusual is not doing social media at all.