To move area for this reason?

[HotIce]

A few years ago, I was fortunate to inherit enough for a deposit to get on the housing ladder. After a long search, I offered on a house in need of some work in a nice part of a ‘bad’ area which I’d never lived in before but had spent some time in as my best friend lived there.

Fast forward to now and my recent ex is now with my best friend who lives just up the road. I’ve blocked them both and am on my way to getting over it but I still feel hurt and angry which intensifies every time I pass and he’s there. I spend a lot of energy trying to avoid them. I love my house which is pretty quirky and in a nice spot so I probably wouldn’t get as nice a house in another area. I have made other friends here but I feel like I want to get away from them and start again somewhere they’re not.

The house probably wouldn’t sell in its current state and I had grand plans to make it mine. I need to decide if this is still the house I plan on staying in long term or whether I should just opt for a cheap(ish), neutral renovation to get it marketable and then get out asap. Even so, it still may take a while to sell because it won’t appeal to everyone given its quirks.

I feel so torn. WWYD in my situation please?

I would find a way to stay as this won't always be so raw. I'd also seethe at the ££££s lost to stamp duty and the loss of my current life, just because of those two asshats.

If you can rise above it somehow, I think it'll probably be ok x

He, she or they might move which would piss you off even more if you've moved away. And lovely houses don't come along that often, I'd be loathe to give that up for those fuckers.

She took your boyfriend / he took your friend…don’t let these people take your home!

As a PP said, selling and buying costs a lot of money. They might break up the day after you seal a sale.

Avoid going past. Find some petty way to vent your upset (anonymously sign them up for free STI tests / Tena pad promotions ), concentrate on making your lovely house just as you would like it, and see how you feel in 6 months.

Wait for the hurt to ease and then decide. Now is not the time to make a hasty decision.

What a sad situation.

I agree with previous posters, but also live by the motto: life's too short. I and others in my family had a falling out with other members of the family and I still think about it when I go to places they might be like Sainsbury's; I can't wait to move away. We fell out over 5 years ago - so I don't think the hurt always goes away.
I'm moving out of the area (other reasons too and don't LOVE my house, so not quite the same) - life's too short to live somewhere you're not 100% comfortable, if there are options to change it.

Hopefully you'll get to a place where they don't affect you and you can stay in the house you love. Don't make any hasty decisions. Best of luck.

Thank you everyone for the kind replies. I agree that this is a decision that should be made with a cool, calm head but it’s become a more urgent decision since I have builders starting soon. I can either blow the budget and do all the things I’d planned or reserve the money for a new purchase and move. I think if it didn’t need so much work doing, I’d probably sell and move on but perhaps that’s because it’s still quite raw. The current state of the housing market is also a big factor in my decision.

I don’t think she will ever move from where she is (been there 25 years) and of course I’ve convinced myself they’re going to sail happily into the sunset without me. Luckily my house is tucked away on a side street so I don’t see them coming and going but I have to pass her house to leave our village and she’s close to the nearest shop.

@thislifeliveit, this is my worry - it feels like such a huge betrayal by both of them (ex was also a lifelong friend of 30 years) that I wonder if it will always hurt no matter how much time passes. I’m sorry you’re also being driven out of where you live.