apologies for my waffle, there was more but I have condensed it. Hope it makes sense & you’ve got this mummy
I think you should sell the inherited house, sort your debts, buy a safe doo’er upp’er where you want to be & make it your own. Housing security is hard to come by when you work your fingers to the bone but never seem to have anything to show for it so I would see that as almost a must & remember you can get half hour of free legal advice from solicitors.
We all make mistakes. I, like you, worked hard all my life yet have no money & next to no possession to my name & the possessions I have are all mismatched, worth nothing, ‘inherited’ aka dumped on me or picked up 2nd hand.
For me I thought own my own home would come one day when I met the right person then we would settle down & start a family.
Never did I think at 32 I would find myself pregnant, alone & having to decide between having the baby & continuing with the Navy career I had just signed up-to.
On one side I was soooo lucky to be pregnant as I have PCOS & I was told at 20 I would need medical help to get pregnant naturally.
On another side the baby I was now carrying had been conceived outside of a regular relationship but despite my medical issues & the morning after pill (condom split) baby clearly wanted to be here.
On another side was the Navy, map making career, a big adventure & finally a chance to earn a decent wage so I could settle down myself as I hadn’t met the right person to do that with & then there was the baby. The adventure that could be & the wonder if once I got hold of dad & thanked him for having super sperm & giving me something so amazing he might fancy giving things a go. It was not the 1st time we had spent time together that year, we’d talked about our plans for the future, we seemed to be in the same path & we got on so I thought no harm asking & I will admit my heart yearned for him as he gave me something I had resigned myself to never having.
The relationship wasn’t to be & neither was the navy career as I couldn’t just get rid of my miracle baby who had survived despite many odds being thrown at them so I made the scary decision to have baby alone & he was already shacked up with someone else but it took 3 years for me to find that out when I finally tacked him down on Facebook.
Great pregnancy, I was very tired the whole way though but only she 2 days of heartburn & sickness because I was addicted to ginger biscuits , barely a foot in my ribs, organs or bladder, no aches, no pains, no sore hips or anything then labour hit…
… bare in mind here when I found out I was pregnant I was pretty fit, healthy - bar a coupe of hormonal issues -, very strong & 9months off joining the navy but nothing cold have prepared my body for the marathon that was labour…!!!
Grateful I had very little pain BUT I was left to go for 110hrs before they have me an emergency c-section, I contracted e-coli while in surgery & I have been left disabled & unable to work…
I now cope but don’t live. I do what I can with & for my child, dad decided the wanted nothing to do with our DD as it turns out he was already with someone else who he has now married & had kids with.
It hurts but he lied to me but he has also lied to her about us so I dodged a bullet there.
I have a precious child I was told I would never have & he pays his way because he has to.
We get by ok but when CMS stops in 5 or 7 years I’ll be destitute if cost of living is like it is now, I don’t clear all my debts & get better so I can go to work.
After 12.5 yrs battling Extreme fibromyalgia, CFS, PTSD - I loved One born every minute before I had baby now I can’t watch a second of the show as it shows parents going through nothing like I experienced & it feel bereft - anxiety, panic attacks & severely weakened back & pain I fear I will never work again.
Despite wanting to work & looking for jobs I think I could do my body won’t let me.
No-one knows what the future holds. Certainly didn’t see mine like this but I have an amazing daughter & we are doing ok.
Xxxx Take a leap of faith in yourself. You deserve success xxxx