Feeling so alone

[icedlatte38]

I'm wondering if I'm being unreasonable. Myself and my husband rarely have sex maybe once every 2 weeks. Sometimes it bothers me other times I go it's life, kids ect ect.
My aibu is it was recently his birthday and on the night of his birthday he wasn't bothered so I left him but tonight we've just had a few drinks to mark the occasion and the first thing he said to me when we went upstairs was I can't be bothered to have sex with you I'm pretty shit faced. He's now asleep and I'm really upset. I've now caused a row between us (his words). Aibu here or am I right this is the end? I'm not someone who pesters someone looking for sex and I certainly didn't tonight but we are married 7 years together 16 years I'm only 37 and I feel so alone .

I’m really sorry. That sounds really crap :( I would be devastated! How long has minimal sex been going on? What is the excuse usually given for it? He can’t blame being ‘shit faced’ every time he wants to get out of it ?

Once every 2 weeks is rarely?

It’s difficult because we’re all different and I don’t know if it’s the relationship or just his way

@MrsALambert I myself find it rare for me considering he and I generally go to bed same time every night but completely respect other couples idea of rare

I feel like I’d Op has highlighted this as ‘rare’ and given a time frame, it’s rare for them! Everyone is different!

He actually said to me will we have sex tomorrow night knowing full well I've an important meeting with work on Monday morning as I've been prepping for it. I just don't know where to go from here. I'm all about making compromises but I'm feeling so alone right now